Fact: Bloggertts have higher chance to get married!

By: Qwaider

On:Sunday, September 30, 2007 11:07:28 PM
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It's astonishing, but as I see it, If a bloggerett (Female blogger) is still unmarried, they seem to have a much higher chance of getting married. And the proof is absolutely overwhleming!

In the past year ALONE, there were at least 8 bloggeretts who willingly surrendered to the golden cage. Some got engaged, some got married, and others are on the verge. So what do you think drives such percentages up?

Could it be the fact that they're laying out their thoughts to people? Something that would take months and months in real life to achieve with someone who is ready and willing to hear and help?

Could it be the interest of many parties that drives competition-hormones to insane levels in the male body to the point that it makes the Alpha-males feverishly seek after that female?

Or could it be the gentle stream of thoughts that strikes chords and reverberate in the heart and soul of men, like the siren's song but without the catastrophic ending?

Could it be the comfort or warmth of sharing ideas, and intimate feelings from the privacy and security of your own living room, shielded by your computer screen and millions of miles of Internet cabling?

Could it be the feeling of forbidden inaccessible fruit hanging so near on your screen, yet so far physically, far enough to intrigue all feelings of want and need in a way unprecedented in history?

Could it be to make history with "We met through her blog"?

Could it be to defy the traditional stupidity called arranged marriage (with all it's successful examples around me) I know... I know.. it works ... I still find it stupid ...

I really don't know, none of these are solid statistical facts, but what is certain is that, expressive women, (bloggeretts) appear to have a much better luck at relationships.

Therefore, go ahead, express yourself! You have nothing to lose, but the shackles of a backward society!

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#1
Hani Obaid
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On: 10/1/2007 12:35:05 AM

On the old post about how mothers overlook their own son's old friendships of the opposite sex when they brag about their virtue, you advised it was unacceptable to you for a potential future wife to have had past friendships with men, and that just having such friendships would be as unacceptable as if she had slept with any of those past friends.

Based on this somewhat (to me at least) conservative view, getting to know someone over the internet (through blogg, chat, forum, social-network, etc...) may be the only acceptable alternative to meeting people that weren't chosen for you by Mom, sister, relative, etc...

Maybe it is decent because morality and religious law haven't caught up yet, maybe its because there is no physical presence, just two people and their thoughts. I don't know.

Another aspect is that you could come to like the person even before knowing what they look like. I've had instances where I would meet a woman, and not consider her particularily attractive. Then I would get to know her, and my perspective changes. I think relationships that start online would tend to encourage this aspect more.

So now that you've written all about why Bloggerettes are more likely to get married, how about the companion post about why male bloggers are not ?

#2
Nizar
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On: 10/1/2007 12:38:03 AM

What about male bloggers ? :P

Just kidding, I guess all of them in general are the reason, except for the second and the sixth one ^^

I quite agree with you, through blogging you can find and understand a lot of things about a person that you might not get through any other way of communication.

#3
asoom
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On: 10/1/2007 1:30:09 AM

Yea what about the male bloggers?

To me it seems that many bloggers (male and female) have made a clear boundary between their online life and their real life and thus a relationship with someone they know through blogging isn’t something they would ever consider. Many view blogging as a virtual place to vent and organize your thoughts; it’s not for expanding your social network. I personally haven’t taken a stance on the issue, I haven’t been a blogger long enough to decide. So about your points,
1. Good point
2. Hmm I never thought of the alpha male as the blogging type
3. I wouldn’t know about that one but it sounds poetic
4. This one ties with #1, but in this case the comfort you get has to do with the distance so I don’t know how that would promote relationships
5. I’m not so sure I agree
6. Honestly this one sounds cheesy and kind of embarrassing
7. It’s not an arranged marriage when you’re set up by people, family, and friends, to meet with someone as a potential future mate who they think is compatible with you, and it’s not stupid
8.Whatever you say, you’ve been around this way longer than me

Well I’ll be honest, I am actually on the market but I have incredibly high standards and I don’t care if it means I’ll be in my 30s before I get married (hopefully not, I’m 23 now), I’m a hopeless romantic yet conservative, I do come with baggage (I just don’t know what to do with it), and I have a father that seems to hate the younger male gender and thus that will pose a serious challenge.

#4
Qwaider
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On: 10/1/2007 1:31:16 AM

Male bloggers are obviously not as attractive, probably because most men are extroverts
Men are driven most of the time by their hormones, it's OK most of the time to love someone they didn't even see. I'm not sure it's the same with women, especially these days where the physical view is a very important aspect of the whole experience

By the way, in my previous post, I said it's equally unacceptable, but I didn't say that I wouldn't consider someone who had previous experiences. In fact, after my article ("second hand lovers") I should have added that my tolerance level has grown even more to include people with previous marriage experience

#5
Qwaider
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On: 10/1/2007 1:37:59 AM

Asoom ... that was awesome :) LOL!
The idea I am trying to show here is that it "could" be one of these, it could be something else. These are not a set of rules, but rather a set of possibilities

I think all single people are on the market, we all have our standards, we all have our personalities and when we blog we maintain our "residual self image" which is what we think we are.

What I meant by an arranged marriage the traditional marriage well known to all

Anyway, thank you all for your AWESOME feedback and great update. That's exactly what makes blogging great. The exchange of ideas. The respect that someone commenting gives to the post, by commenting relatively and generously. So thank you all.

#6
أنونيموس
Said
On: 10/1/2007 3:56:33 AM

Without the catastrophic endings? I don't know :D

#7
Isam
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On: 10/1/2007 10:35:20 AM

Q ... u think too much man ... try to go to mexico or sth to get a real break since going to amman is no break at all ...

Peace

#8
wonders
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On: 10/1/2007 10:51:50 AM

Well if they are going to meet in blogland then they are both bloggers, so the numbers should be equal. right?

#9
Tamara
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On: 10/1/2007 10:58:16 AM

Well Q, there will not come a day that I will disagree that female bloggers are more attractive than male bloggers : ) but I guess your ideas would be a bit more realistic had the majority of bloggerettes married someone they met through their blog, but that is not the case.

but if what you say is right I would say that blogerettes got used to sharing their feelings and expressing themselves online, thus might be more prone to expressing themselves in general.

#10
hamede
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On: 10/1/2007 4:20:26 PM

Good post.

#11
Deemco
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On: 10/1/2007 10:37:32 PM

First of all, LOVE the topic :) When females blog they tend to express theirselves and their deepest thoughts that you may not have access to through normal face to face encounters or conversations. This gives the male the chance to truly get inside the female's head and know her for who she really is without letting other things, such as physical appearance, get in the way. I believe you truly love someone when you get to know them from the inside and then work your way out instead of the other way around.
Believe it or not, my fiance and I met online. If it wasn't for the internet I don't think we would have ever met because we both live totally different lives.
However, I'm confused Q, I remember you telling me that you don't like marriages that happen through meeting on the internet and now you're with the idea. Please explain :)

#12
Qwaider
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On: 10/1/2007 10:55:53 PM

I didn't say I'm with it, or against it. I said that I'm against arranged marriages.
But people do change their mind. Right? So I might decide that I don't like it one day, then something happens and now I suddenly discover that I actually do like it :)

#13
Hani Obaid
Said
On: 10/1/2007 11:28:48 PM

Hmmm this brings up another question, what happens to blogging frequency post-mortum errr post-marital. That's not a real word. Grrrrrrrrr.

#14
Qwaider
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On: 10/1/2007 11:48:35 PM

IT goes considerably down. Either because the ladies achieved their goals, or because they're too busy playing wife

#15
Mazz
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On: 10/2/2007 1:29:28 AM

you guys should probably meet me in person to completely destroy some of your conceptions about bloggers and bloggerettes!

#16
Qwaider
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On: 10/2/2007 1:40:44 AM

Mazz, does this mean that you're never marrying a bloggerette? ;) (wink here for a reason)

#17
chikapappi
Said
On: 10/2/2007 2:07:23 AM

Funny that I came across this after I posted my last two posts! Very very optimistic now :) bas wein hada 3anna ne7na el3arab! Don' think so!

#18
Qwaider
Said
On: 10/2/2007 2:46:52 AM

Welcome to my humble blog Chikapappi. This is my current observation. I'm seeing bloggeretts getting married left, right and center. All over the Arabic blogosphere :)

#19
طفيلي( ahmad)
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On: 10/2/2007 4:18:46 AM

I would never ever get married to a girl who shows her pictures and her private life on net. I hope I am not upsetting people here; we are Arabs and have get our pride to keep our privacy away from stranger. This could lead to disaster if girls in my community posted her picture or talking about her life where strangers read it. Even I am a male and can not do it.

if I imagine myself married to women who bloge and my friends or other talk about my women’s dress or her favourite programs or our dinners or her color hair through her blogs, that will be un acceptable and lead to divorce or something else .
I understand we come from different backgrounds, but how do you define privacy if every things are on the net.
I hope the net cost will be expanisve and people in jordan can not get it .

#21
أنونيموس
Said
On: 10/2/2007 4:43:53 AM

Sa7ee7 inak Tafili.

#22
asoom
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On: 10/2/2007 7:06:03 AM

I think wonders made a good point, so then with your theory qwaider the blogerettes are not marrying fellow bloggers but more like blogger readers/fans if the actual bloggins is having anything to do with the speedy rate of getting married for us.

#23
Mazz
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On: 10/2/2007 12:51:30 PM

ahahaha well no that's not what i meant, i meant some of the things and not all of them. if you're to ask me what i think about bloggerrets and getting married i'd say it's simply because they have the ability to express themselves just as men do and even better sometimes. and when it comes to a man deciding on his life partner, those who are wise would chose someone who they know can stand by them in the time of need and help them. not on the job front, but on the intellectual level. where a woman can actually help a man make a decision and not just nod with an "OK 7abeebi, zay ma biddak".

points that would be shattered would proabably include the one where male bloggers are introverts. and issues like being different online from what you are off line. like i said, you should probably meet me in person to know what i'm talking about.

#24
Qwaider
Said
On: 10/2/2007 1:01:40 PM

Mazz, I'm in complete agreement with you then :), I like what you said. It basically means that we do look past the external shell! WE DO, but how many women believe that?

I think many of the male bloggers are introverts, they seek it as refuge from the hardships of life.
I on the other hand are not like that, I'm even worse in real life :) I'm the expressive type, and don't feel shy to do just about anything in public. People who know me in person, can probably attest to that. In fact, these very traits caused me some heartache when I met the Jordanian bloggers face to face. Which were mostly quiet and shy, while I was jumping all over the place :D

Now, when are we going to hear the good news about you?

#25
طفيلي( ahmad)
Said
On: 10/2/2007 2:50:49 PM

#21أنونيموسSaid On: Tuesday, October 02, 2007 4:43:53 AM
Sa7ee7 inak Tafili.

Thankssfor your racist comment.There is no need to go down taling about my root.at least i know...... not like other.

Believe me 95% of people in jordan agree with me.you might live in jordan but i think you are from different planet and reprsent miniortoy in community.

#26
chikapappi
Said
On: 10/2/2007 3:29:05 PM

heida anon. men wein 6ale3!!! what's wrong with a girl having a blog!! not all of us show pictures wala 3amleno menshan nel3ab! it's a private space bas yeah you are so hmmm... raj3y, YET you do blogging & commenting yourself! DUH!

#27
Qwaider
Said
On: 10/2/2007 5:58:01 PM

طفيلي:
Being the majority doesn't mean you're right. And apart from "Tafili" being an insult, I agree with Anonymous that what you said wasn't appropriate. Considering some lady unfit for your taste just becuse she writes, is simply unfair. [Just look at all the benifits

Chika
Many people will continue to think like that, but the fact is. If someone doesn't appreciate your skills for what they are, they're probably not a good fit. And even if what Tafili said was true, and 95% of the people are that, then your match is in that remaining open-minded 5%.

#28
Mazz
Said
On: 10/3/2007 6:52:24 PM

wallah ya m3allem the good news are on their way inshallah qareeban bas tufraj kammen shaghleh fi bali. other than that, i find myself somewhat adaptive in that area. meaning, if someone i'm sitting with is too quiet, i usually find myself trying to get them to open up, then i start putting things on the table of my own. other than that, i just like to measure people i'm sitting with and or dealing with before i start shooting my mouth off with all sorts of opinions and stuff. that does not mean in any way that i'm a 7irbayeh, it just means i'm careful.

my mind is my treasure, the thoughts i share are to be considered as such. something of value to me. therefor, i don't just give them to everyone and anyone.

as for tafili's idea about writing women, i think he's entirely entitled to chose a none writer or even an illiterate woman to be his wife. there are advantages to both types regardless of whether or not we want to see them or not. someone wants a trophy wife, good for him! inshallah tikhrib beit fawateero o umooro il ijtima3iyyeh! howwe o 7azzo! choices are to be made everywhere, and it's important that we let people make them without passing judgment.

#29
Qwaider
Said
On: 10/3/2007 9:06:28 PM

That's so wise Mazz, I completely agree with you.
As for the good new, I heard through the grapevine that it's someone who's really nice, quiet, but very nice. And if that is the case, I can't be more happy for you since you have made a wise choice on so many levels

And allow me to be the first to say, Alf mabrook.

Now comes the dilemma,
WHO is going to take pictures at your engagement and wedding parties?! ;)

#30
Mazz
Said
On: 10/4/2007 5:05:55 AM

ya seedi thanks :)
as for the photos, i don't think it's going to be a problem :D many have battled for the position so i'll be having a good selection of choices :)