What is up with people these days? I'm specifically talking about those so called "happily married" people. Who appear to have so much time on their hands to burn the midnight oil reading, writing and commenting on their old friends-from-the-other-gender on facebook.
If anything they appear to be sniping for a flattering comment here, or a compliment there. And who doesn't like compliments? Especially when s/he hasn't heard something like that from their significant other in ages!
So, I've been keeping an eye on my married friends, and noticed how most are spending a lot of time online. Either chatting or socially interacting on face book and similar media
I'm not talking about people who manage to churn couple of blog entries a day. Because, well, most of their stuff is open and in the clear for everyone (including their significant other) to see. But thinking of all the private messages, personal chats, and private email to accounts the significant other doesn't know anything about.
If someone claims that I am doing similar stuff, (although I'm not, I hate facebook) I can always use the "I'm single" argument, and I can do whatever I want. But if I ware married, I wouldn't have time to do such things. In fact, I would have a hard time explaining to my future significant other why am I up late punching away on my computer when I'm supposed to be enjoying the warmth of my love filled bed.
It appears as if so many people have empty lives to the point that fishing for compliments have become their favorite pastime. Keeping different attitudes towards people. One towards their real life wife and home. And one for their online friends, ex-friends, and old friends. Especially those from the other gender
I'm sure many have innocent discussions with their old friends, reminiscing over the old days and how awesome it was back at school. And some might do this behind their spouses because many don't really understand. But I'm not talking about these harmless chats. Although, in my humble opinion they need to be maintained to a minimum. Out of respect of the current spouse at least, and not to allow doubt or misconceptions any wedge to the already stable life.
Although it would appear that some people have empty lives, the fact is, it's far from it. But many find the time to get online and get the old feeling of excitement back in their lives.
Dedicated to all my married friends that no longer appear online after dark!