Those don't count!
- By: Qwaider
- On:Tuesday, September 18, 2007 11:09:15 PM
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I was recently invited to Iftar where the nice old mother of the lady who invited us started bragging about her son. And how amazing he was. She was talking and explaining how he got his Citizenship, and how she's trying to find him a wife from back home who is fresh out of school. And how he is suited to marry the best out there. Of course, it's only natural that the mother would polish her son up. Brushing away minor things like he had an American wife, and that he shared bedroom with many others. Of course, in her rational, you know, these don't count.
Many people have decided that the easy way to win heaven (Aka America) is to marry an American. Which is fine, as long as the intentions are pure, or clear. For example, if someone is marrying an American for love, companionship, starting a family or anything else. Then that's fine. If someone agrees to marry someone on specific pretenses that's also fine.
What's not OK, is deceiving someone to get the Greencard or citizenship from them. That part is really not appropriate. But even then, people change, and what might start as an opportunistic endeavor, might evolve to good companion ship and become the seed of a great family. And I've seen that happen.
I fail to understand how the society have drawn such a distinction between two guys, one married to an American, and another married to an Arab. Once the marriage is over, the whole process of marrying an foreigner doesn't count. Or having an affair, or multiple combinations of the above, as long as the ladies are foreign.
For some reason, many people seem to differentiate women based on citizenship! An Arab is counted while scores of affairs with western women are not. It makes me wonder!
The new trend is starting to take place among Arab women in the west, where having a western boyfriend is not counted and equated to "Child play" and "Amusement". It's even encouraged as a pastime while the woman awaits her glorious Arab oblivious future husband!
Couple of days ago, Fellow blogger Batir, wanted to declare moral marshal-laws in Jordan. I add my voice to his, but it appears that we need to implement it at a much grander scale!
Memories....
But THANKS! :) I'll check it out, you know what? Even better, I'll make it a link for you. How about that?
or even worse, as you mentioned, I discovered that girls here in the states actually go out with American guys “just for fun” cuz they don’t count, and when it becomes serious it will not be any of those guys around, it will an Arab guy, and those guys are considered nothing but “teslai”…
elli be3eesh yama beshoof!!!
I was going to comment that it's only like that for the guy before I read that paragraph, that observation might be the case where you are but in my community that's not acceptable for the girl like it is for the guy, there are girls that have had nonmuslim boyfriends and even married nonmuslims but they've been pretty much ostracized.
You're right though, it's so excusable for the guy and moms praise their boys because the only see his achievements, it's like ok lady everyone has achievements your son does drugs and makes out in public with his girlfriend so shutup
بتعرف انا شو بقهرني؟ بتلاقي الواحد فيهم ما بعبي ظرايب و اذا عبى بطلع بدو مصاري من الحكومة لانو عبى انو عائل لنص البلد,و بعدين بشتغل على اللينك و الببليك ايد, وبعالج كل عيلتو على حساب المعونات..بس اخر النهار بقعد معاك و بقلك يلعن ابوها اميركا...اي بلاش اسب الدنيا رمظان..طبعا بكون جاي على فيزا سياحة..
على فكرة صارلي اسبوع مش مدخن..بس عندي كروزين جداد مربورو احمر من تاع البلاد, حرام يروحو هدر..
يلا سلام يا شزن..
Does this make a difference to you, or are both equally unacceptable ?