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On infidelity

By: Deemco

On:Tuesday, September 18, 2007 6:59:22 PM
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Some people who are in relationships tend to be unfaithful to their partner. For those who get caught, sometimes they are forgiven and given another chance. Which makes me wonder... should a person who has cheated on his/her partner not be trusted anymore? And if a person cheats once, does that mean that he or she will inevitably cheat again? Do people deserve second chances?

Could it have just been a moment of weakness for that person who was unfaithful or is it just the way he/she is? Some men can never have enough. Even if they're married and have everything they need, they still look outside, wanting more. Why?? If you have a good wife who satisfies your needs, why would u go and look elsewhere? (I'm not denying the fact the sometimes it's women who are unfaithful)

If you caught your spouse cheating, would u forgive him/her? Would u give them a second chance? Would u ever be able to forgive them and trust them again? You might say that you wouldn't forgive him/her or that you'd leave him/her and wouldn't give them a second chance. But What if there are children in the picture. Would you be willing to forgive your partner for the sake of you children, to keep them in a healthy family environment and not deprive them of having 2 parents?

What would you do?

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#1
Khaled
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On: 9/18/2007 7:18:25 PM

Cheating? Divorce is the only answer to that!

#2
asma
Said
On: 9/18/2007 7:38:15 PM

deemco, I think it's hard to generalize about cheating situations to say whether giving second chance is warranted or not. For example if the couple was separated and intending to divorce but then later reconciled and got back together an extra-marital affair during that time isn't the same as when they're living in the same home with no intent to separate.

I think for me personally I wouldn't give a second chance, it would be over totally, but I don't think it's wrong to give second chances I just wouldn't do it!

#3
asma
Said
On: 9/18/2007 7:53:38 PM

oopps, sorry about the double post when I wrote the first one the page went back and I started over, didn't realiize it submitted LOL.....my bad

#4
Hani Obaid
Said
On: 9/18/2007 8:41:29 PM

Could it have been a moment of weakness ?
Absolutely not, this is a betrayal of trust at the most basic level. I don't see how someone with any moral fiber at all can allow themselves to do this. They can certainly never ever be trusted again.

Can they be forgiven ? Can the spouse lower their self worth enough and sacrifice for their children enough to do this ? Are the children really better off ? I don't think there is a general rule, but if the kids get home and find their parents fighting on a constinuous basis, Perhaps they are better off devorced.

If it happened to me, I wouldn't forgive nor forget, and children wouldn't be an issue, because I wouldn't want any !

#5
nido
Said
On: 9/18/2007 10:39:54 PM

Never a second chance!!! Especially if there are kids.

#6
Qwaider
Said
On: 9/18/2007 11:13:42 PM

Frankly, every case is a case by it self. Infidelity is a major problem and it can range from a single offending look all the way to having a secret wife and children.
It's also different if it was a man, woman, before or after the relationship started, etc, etc ,etc
Infidelity is a broad term, and judging generically is not fair.

Infidelity is a sad fact of all societies over the course of history. Many suffered from it, many haven't been caught. Is there a cure?
I doubt it, as long as there is greed, there is solution.

#7
tinkerbella
Said
On: 9/19/2007 1:04:39 AM

Infidelity is unforgivable. Even if one spouse is not getting what they want out of the marriage, they need to ask for it INSIDE the marriage or LEAVE the marriage, but to go looking for extra-marital fun is inexcusable (applies to both males and females).
Even if childrern were involved, the cheated spouse still needs to get out of that marriage because the kids don't need that kind of a sick example for a parent

#8
afaf
Said
On: 9/19/2007 1:38:02 AM

no second chances....once bitten...twice shy...so no second chances...

#9
Maioush
Said
On: 9/19/2007 8:52:43 AM

well, the first thought was NOOOOOOOOO there is second chance for cheaters, Khalas, if he/she cheated once they will never be trusted again, but then when i thought about it again, i don't know, each person is a different case, i don't know, sometimes people do things they never imagined they would do in their life, things they never even in their weirdest dreams that they will say one day, i don't know walahi ya Deema as for me, maybe I'll forgive but NEVER forget!

#10
Princess N
Said
On: 9/19/2007 12:05:15 PM

As mentioned it does differ if it was a male or a female.. no matter how much females hate the idea they tend to give their spouses second chances, especially if there are children involved..
As for men, the idea of their spouse cheating on them drives them crazy and wont ever forgive even if they were cheating as well..

Usually girls fall for guys who have been with a lot of woman and had a lot of experience, while males cant stand the idea of their lady being with someone else..