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She ran away!!

  • By: Deemco

  • On:Monday, September 10, 2007 9:28:05 PM
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    Yesterday morning our maid ran away! Can you believe it?! I was shocked! I always hear stories about maids who run away, but i never expected it to happen to us. We've had many maids and none of them have ever run away. The nerves! where did she go? Who did she run to? She's only been with us for 2 and a half months, she doesn't speak Arabic and her English isn't so great. And what shocks me the most is that she had the nerves to run away while I was in the house!

    UPDATE: it has been confirmed that the agency DID steal her. They took her from our house and gave her to someone else! Simply put, they conned us and probably them too!

    Every one was out of the house except for me. My mom went out at 11 a.m, which is when i had woke up. I didn't get out of bed because i was on the phone. I could hear the maid making noises in the house at the time. I stayed on the phone for an hour or so. I left my room at around 12. The house was very quiet. The maid was nowhere to be seen, so i went downstairs to  look for her since she's usually working in the kitchen, but she wasn't there. I checked the kitchen door to see if it was locked (since it usually is when every one's out) but it wasn't. I suspected that she might have gone outside or something so i just left it unlocked and went back upstairs.

    However, while i was on the phone earlier i heard the kitchen door being slammed shut (my room is directly over the kitchen) but i made nothing of it. I thought that maybe dad passed by and dropped groceries off or something(which he does sometimes). Half an hour later my mom came home and asked where the maid was and i told her that I looked for her and couldn't find her. The thought of her running away did cross my mind for a second but I doubted it. My mom and I went to her room and found that most of her clothes were missing and we found her clothes and slippers in the room (which she usually wears while she's working). Her mobile wasn't there and neither were her running shoes so we knew she had gone. And when we put 2 and 2 together we had realised that she had run away. Right after my mom left she must have passed by my room and realised that i was awake and so she took a run for it before i got out of bed. You can tell that she wasn't fully prepared since she left behind a few things, looks like she took what she could while she could.

    We never mistreated her in any way, but there was always something fishy about her. She wasn't like the rest of the maids we usually got (she's Phillippino btw). Most maids are shy at first and it takes them a while to get comfortable around the house, but not her. She was very bold and outgoing and in some ways rude! She would look at us in a weird way and tell us strange things that I'm not gonna get into now. And a few days after her arrival she said she wanted to go back to the agency claiming that our house is too big. It was fine with us. We don't' wanna keep her against her will so we were gonna return her, but the next day she said that she changed her mind and decided to stay.

    The past week, she's had been acting up. She was ignoring us, ignoring what my mother would tell her. She would just leave everything and go to bed. She wouldn't answer when we called her. She was starting to rebel, but we didn't say anything to her.

    And on the night before she ran away she came up to me and asked me what the name of the area we live in is called and the street name and i actually told her! Oh and i forgot to mention that she has a mobile which she uses to contact her husband in the philippine. We even let her use our mobiles to send messages  since it's cheaper since her phone is roaming.

    We just found out yesterday that our friends' maid (which is friends with out maid) had received a note from her saying that she has an aunt here that is gonna help her find another job. Meaning that she already intended to leave us.

    We have reason to believe that we were conned! We suspect that the agency which we got her from is the one who helped her run away because right before i heard the kitchen door slam i heard a car horn (you can see the street from my window so noises are clear). And she's very sneaky, you can never hear her when she moves around the house and she never makes a sound when she opens and closes doors in the house, yet while she was leaving the house yesterday morning she slammed the door out of hurry and surely someone who escapes in that manner isn't gonna run down the street. I'll bet there was a car waiting for her outside.

    My dad is looking into it. You may think that it's far-fetched that the agency would do that but we have reason to believe it. First of all the agency never gave us the maid's passport (claiming that they needed it to make her residency) and they insisted on getting the money fully paid. Secondly, this maid was supposed to be with us only temporarily until our original one which we ordered came (which never happened! They said that she ran away with her boyfriend in Manila). AND a few days after we got her the owner of the agency was put in jail for some problems with the government!

    We were at a gathering this morning (my mom and I) with some ladies who said that some agencies tend to con people and sell the same maid to a number of people at the same time. Can you believe it?! Unbelievable!!

     

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    • Nido
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    • On: 9/10/2007 11:18:38 PM
    Yea it happens a lot! My family's maid ran away once, and then when we found her she said she wants to go work with her aunt in another house as a maid too! and that family agreed, and they took her and signed papers that she is theirs and stuff! and then 4 months later...that family called mine asking whether she came back to them or not! she ran awaya agin! Some of them can be really funny! You can tell from the very beginning! The one my family has now is just great, we love her!
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    • asma
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    • On: 9/11/2007 1:05:57 AM
    I don’t see how your family was conned!  You said you guys didn’t pay fully for her right?  And she didn’t steal anything, right?  I just don’t see the great crime here!

    Although I recognize her behavior was strange what’s up with your insensitive terminology?  You don’t “order a maid” you can however “order a pizza”, she’s not your child to say she rebelled.

    I don’t mean to be attacking but I am just biased because I see how some arab families in the US treat ‘maids’, we actually call them ‘cleaning ladies’- and I think it’s because they’re bringing that attitude and mentality towards such house service workers with them from the country they came from.  My dad kind of has that mentality too he complains we pay her too much and she doesn’t do enough.  Our cleaning lady who comes part-time doesn’t clean for any arab families anymore because of her bad experiences, just us!  They’re supposed to get paid by the hour and there are some things they either don’t do or you have to pay them more such as your personal laundry and folding clothes.

    The last arab house she cleaned the lady of the house was demanding and kept adding tasks to what she normally does and at some point interrupted her and took her into the bedrooms where she pulled out all the drawers from the dressers and starting taking down things from the shelves and told her when she was done to refold all the clothes and reorganize everything in all the shelves in all the rooms, by the time she was done she had been at their house over 12 hours and when the lady came to pay her she thought she shouldn’t pay her by the hour and rather pay her by the day, because she said she could have been faster or whatever, she wanted to give the original range of price they ‘agreed’ upon which was based on 6-8 hours of work.  So in the end what she wanted to give her was barely 10 an hour, it’s like ok lady this isn’t Jordan don’t you think she has a family and some bills to pay? She would have probably made as much working as a cashier than cleaning that lady’s nasty-ass house.
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    • أنونيموس
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    • On: 9/11/2007 1:29:51 AM
    Aww, now you'll have to make your own bed tomorrow!
    The offices do tend to do this underhanded type of stuff though...
    You have to thank God that she did not steal anything... a friend of mine lives in the same building of his parents, both thier maids conspired, stole money and jewelry, stoler their passports and even stole suitcases to put everything in and ran away.. it has been 2 months and the police were not able to find them..  
    asma: we DID fully pay for her. We paid JD1400. The man never gave us her passport because he said he needed it to make the "eqameh". I'm sorry if u found my terminology offensive, but the truth remains that she is referred to as a maid on the contract.
    We're not the kind of "arab family" that mistreats or abuses the "cleaning lady". This is not the first time we get a maid and none of them have every run away, but like i said, she was unusual, rude and un-easy to be around. She was suspicious.
    And the reason we believe we were conned is because when we confronted the agency that we got her from they said that it was our responsibility, however they agreed to look for her and asked us not not take any measures yet. AND we've heard some bad things about the people who own that agency (after it was too late) and they apparently have a bad reputation and they have issues which lead to one of the partners being put in jail.
    And it turns out that some agencies have actually been doing that. Contracting a single maid to a number of clients at the same time, where they contact the maid and tell her to run away and that they'll send her to another house. In the past 2 days, i've heard a number of stories where people in jordan who have maids and have run away. Rumor is that they're taught to run away and go back to the agency.
    أنونيموس
    I wish i only had to make my bed. I have to do the dishes, help mom cook, mop and dust! I'm reconsidering getting married!!
    Princess N: what happened to ur friend is unfortunate, but sadly common. Thank God our's didn't steal anything, but the money we paid for her did go to waste!
    WE have just started the process to get our first maid as my wife's job is getting tougher and we need to attend more to our daughter. I hope we will have better monitoring than you did. However, I am just curious: your maid HAS a mobile phone?
    Batir: yes she has a mobile phone but the number isn't local and we don't know what it is.
    • #8
    • Three
    • Windows Internet Explorer
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    • On: 9/12/2007 3:00:12 AM
    Our maids ran away a few months back. The symptoms are the same, and the escape method is also the same, we were all home! The eight of us! LOL :)
    I sympathise. We had 3 different filipina maids come in before we found one that would stay. Its not that there's much work to be done, or that anyone is mean, but that we all go to work and she has to stay in the house by herself.

    The first one wanted to leave, but when we called the agency and they came she changed her mind. She then ran away. First thing we did was report it to the police. In any case, about a year later. she had gone to the embassy, and they wanted us to pay her iqameh, and go to the police and clear the case (or she couldn't leave the country).

    We told them she ran away as soon as she came in, and that we wouldn't pay for a year in which she worked in someone else's house. So the embassy gave us a list of items she had with her when she came to the embassy (to ensure she didn't steal anything). Then I went with them to the appropriate agency and they paid the Iqameh, and finaly had to go to the police station to clear the case.

    I don't even remember the 2nd one. The 3rd one was totally nuts, or at least we suspected she was. After about a month, she asked me to sleep with her. So we called the agency right away and said she had to go. In any case, when she left we found she had left us her diary which she had written in English for us. I won't repeat what was in it, but let's just say we're lucky she didn't poison us or something.

    Its tough letting a total stranger into your home, but I realize as Jordanians we're lucky to have this option for under $200 a month (which is going to at least double by law soon).

    I wish we could have a nice little robot, that cleans the whole house when we're asleep, and then puts itself into a closet and disappears.

    The funny thing is my brother in the US has a cleaning robot. Its somewhat technical to use, but his masters thesis is in robotic sensing, so he is up to the job. It has a learning AI so it learns the layout of the house by itself, and it goes around on a specific schedule, mops and vacuums, and then goes back into the closet. All while my brother is at work. Of course it can't do anything else, and its much dumber than the futuristic one I have in mind :)
    Hani Obaid: haha loved the idea of a cleaning robot. Please let me know how that goes. If it works, sign me up for one!
    Update: it has been confirmed that the agency DID steal her. They took her from our house and gave her to someone else! Simply put, they conned us and probably them too!
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