Deprivation of the Arab couples

By: Qwaider

On:Friday, August 17, 2007 7:57:15 AM
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Something intrested me these past few days. A bunch of married couples all suffering from the same symptoms. Boredom from thier current partners. Continuous arguments. Non stop discontent and in cases, many cases lack of fidelity.

I can't help not noticing the wondering eye balls, eating the young guys up, or undressing the walking by young girl as they pass the outing.

Even friends of the husband are not off limits as it appears to me. Explicit and suggesting gazes, associated with resentment and looks bordering contempt to the husband make me wonder. If such a lady, in the presence of her husband. Is doing all of that. What would she do in his absence?

The guys, have surpassed all the single guys in flirting with young girls and chasing after them. Just about every single one of them has taken off his wedding ring and buried it down their pockets! When asked, the usual response is... "It's just for fun". But I fear it's not

Around a pool table, the guys gathered. Drinking, when they wouldn't dare in front of their wives. And flirting with the waitresses, any passer by, like a pack of wolves hungry to some fresh meat! Some even exchanged phone numbers with the unsuspecting (and relatively easy) girls in the pool place! These single girls are there for a single reason. That's why it's easier than usual! The piranhas waste no time! The confidently approach them... and make some outrageous claims

The hours pass by, and the new acquaintances become a little more intimate. With the guy's hand is no where to be seen, and his tongue making circles around the girls throat! We tried ... we got the "don't worry man, we're just having fun"

The situation wasn't much different with the ladies. And I'm not going to call names. But when I was making my famous Honey-avocado-milk cocktail in the kitchen. One of the married ladies rubbed her full body against my back! Sending electric shock up and down my spine! I almost fainted... I'm not used to this! But what can I do? Her husband is my best friend!! I felt so filthy ... I wanted to sneak out! But deep inside, I wanted to answer her call! I just couldn't!

When her husband hugged her for some reason. She was looking naughtily, behind his back ... !

Is this how it's going to be in the future? This scares the hell out of me. Frankly, I am starting to have serious doubts about this whole thing. Does this mean that we all need to keep looking behind our shoulders all the time!?

So scary!

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Memories....

#1
secratea
Said
On: 8/17/2007 8:57:11 AM

No this will not be happening in the future as it is not the norm nowadays le2anno fe kul basata eza ma fi deen 3ind elnas, fe a'7laa2. So, I do not think the segment of people you are describing here in your post and their behaviors are universal. It is just that for some reason, I believe you are mingling with the wrong people. I know tens of couples who are so faithful to each other, and being one of three single female Arab Muslim girls here in my area (or at least campus area), and while mixing and mingling with LOTS of Arab and muslim couples, I have not noticed that any of the men nor women in my circle make any hints of flirtation with me, any of the single guys or girls, and also with any of the people around.

#2
Qwaider
Said
On: 8/17/2007 9:11:25 AM

The guys I'm talking about pray, and sometimes drag me to the mosque with them!
I don't know. Maybe I'm noticing these things because I'm a guy and get to hang out with the guys more to see that side...

#4
Budoor
Said
On: 8/17/2007 12:54:58 PM

*I think u shud tell the husband....
What shes doin is not right
I mean if its the non- muslim europeans doin that i'll say its fine BUT a muslim woman? WAAAAA MU9EEBATAAAAAH
And dont mind me but on a shorter note.... prayin 5 times a day is not a guarantee that a person will enter paradise....THERE ARE other obligations too....

#5
Bilal
Said
On: 8/17/2007 2:36:31 PM

Ok, First, I used to think the same as secratea until i knew i was wrong. I hear true stories daily from trusted people on how low people here in Jordan became. Now, if i did not hear these stories, i would say that its still OK here but its not.
Frankly, I never saw or heard these things four or five years ago but now things are different. Religion is the only thing that prevents people from committing sins, otherwise, its all up to the community standards. Thats why when we go traveling we do alot of things we don't usually do in our home, only because its ok in this country and its not ok in our homeland.
Allah Yer7amna because what is coming is worse.

#6
Aspiring housewife
Said
On: 8/17/2007 3:02:02 PM

Man this post is so amusing!... Too bad us Jordanians don't understand the humour in this kind of social criticism.

I know, we should encourage Jordanian men to have four wives. Enough fun for the husband and ALL his friends!

#7
Bashar
Said
On: 8/17/2007 3:08:45 PM

It surly scares people, but the thing is if your afraid of walking, thinking that you WILL fell over, you will end up never walking or walking and thinking when I will fall then most likely you will never succeed ......

yes, fidelity happens everywhere but would it be an excuse not to get married?

#8
secratea
Said
On: 8/17/2007 6:04:55 PM

So now what we should understand from this post and most of the comments is that elwa7ad ma ye2ammin 3ala 7alo? wala 3ala el spouse (if one is married), if not, ma ye2ammin 3ala alli bi7ibhum kaman??
I still believe that lessa eldinya b'7air because lessa fe nas 3idha deeen, if not, 3indha a'7laaa2..and when i say deen, I don't mean the hypocrites.

#9
hamede
Said
On: 8/17/2007 6:43:57 PM

Married couples who do that they dont love each other,i have no RESPECT for them or hang around with them.

#10
Deemco
Said
On: 8/17/2007 6:48:17 PM

When you choose ur life partner, you should choose him or her for the right reasons. Deen and akhla2 should be number one priorities. And trust should be the foundation on which the marriage is built upon. What kind of life would it be if u were living in constant fear of infidelity? Not a very good one and the couples wouldn't be happy together. Constantly falsely accusing each other of being unfaithful.
Maybe these unfaithful couples married for the wrong reasons!

#11
Angry Husband
Said
On: 8/18/2007 1:46:31 AM

Was this few months back when we were playing cards at shadi's place?

#12
Qwaider
Said
On: 8/18/2007 1:55:28 AM

Whisperer:
Yeah, I know riwayat 3abeer .. and this ain't one of them!

Budoor:
First of all, thanks for your comment and welcome to my humble blog
I agree with you, I feel like telling him, I swear! But again, I don't care. Maybe he doesn't care either! I don't even want to know his position on this. I'll just keep to my self and let it go....
She's Muslim. Bint Muslims, married to a Muslim..
And you're right, Praying is not a guarantee

Bilal
I'm just like you. I guess we grow older and we start noticing these things as they happen to us and to people around us.

Aspiring housewife
Thanks for your comment and welcome to my humble blog..
I'm glad that you noticed the social criticism this post has. It is exactly like that, although it's a true story.
And yeah ... I'm with you on the 4 wives thing :)

Today, I heard the weirdest of all news. A Muslim lady married to two guys! It's so weird!

Bashar
I know, that's why I'm not going to be afraid to trust... I want to enjoy being human. Even if that meant being disappointed at times
BUT this doesn't mean I'm letting my guard down all the time

Secratea
La2 ... y2ammen .. but ma ykoon habeeleh

Hamede
does that mean that you've experienced something similar? I think you mean that right? I knew I'm not alone in this

Deemco
Ahhh, so many people marry just for the sake of marriage. Good reasons.. bad reasons ... all the same to them

Angry Husband
Yes, and I'm sure you know the rest of the details, but please keep it to your self

#13
Fire-Faten
Said
On: 8/18/2007 2:30:45 AM

You know something Q? something similar happened to me, but it was a MARRIED GUY! He kept trying to hit on me while his unsuspecting wife was busy with things. And I eventually, left and never came back.
I couldn't tell his wife, she's my best friend. And I couldn't get his filthy hands off of me...
I cried so hard that night. I felt so violated. I still cry every time I remember it. The thought that I couldn't scream to get his hands off me kills me. I didn't want to make a scene, or ruin my best friend's marriage. So I just ran off

#14
Aspiring housewife
Said
On: 8/18/2007 8:23:59 PM

Fire-Faten,
My Darling, next time don't cry, just bite his hand till it bleeds. He might think your crazy, but at least he won't bother you again.

#15
Qwaider
Said
On: 8/18/2007 8:52:53 PM

Oh fire-faten. I'm sorry to hear that too. I really wish there was an easy way or an easy advice out of such a situation. I'm pretty much in the same boat. It's really not easy.

I like Aspiring Housewife's suggestion. Bite the bastard! Tear his fingers off!