Sex addiction....

Is there really such a thing? I truly wonder!

In a recent discussion with a lady friend of mine she branded a third person as a "Sex addict". She continued by saying that's all he thinks about! I was secretly thinking! Shoot, I think about that too, and a lot! Does that make me addicted as well!? Hmmm!

Lets sees,

So I haven't been convicted of any sexual acts, never been forced or caught doing any obscene acts. Nor have I ever violated any one's privacy nor have I ever engaged in anything that is not consensual.

Yet, I'm a guy who has excessive hormones and live in a society where a simple and easy release is readily available. But does this make me a sex addict!?

The question is really greater than just the definition of addiction. Can someone be addicted to food? Can someone be addicted to breathing?

So here's the definition of what addiction is NOT.
"Addiction is not ANY normal human need" -Qwaiderization.

All the want's, the accessories, the luxuries can potentially be addictions.

That's part 1 of proving that there is no such a thing as sexual addiction.

Second part is simply, my friend is not really qualified to come up with such a conclusion. True, we might have minors in Psychology. But that -really- doesn't count! Even two Psychology PhD's will conflict on the diagnoses of the same person. It happens!

So what did my friend base her judgement on???

"He was staring at me"

Is that it!!?

"He looked at me in a weird way"

Right, and there was absolutely no reason for him to look!

"I have the right to dress however I please, and he shouldn't look at me"

Bullshit! If a person has the courage to go out half naked, then bearing the complementary (or dirty) looks come as part of the territory. I would understand if someone went out of their way to climb up the pipes to peak through the bathroom window or something like that. But if something is out in public, excuse me! But people have the right to look!

As much as I hate this last paragraph, I find it completely true. Anything that is public is public property. If people saw it, it's their right to own that mental image! No one can take it from them.

"He talked dirty to my friend"

Are you sure it wasn't your friend who talked dirty to him? And why was she around long enough to hear all of that? hmm

"He did it with my other friend"

One of two things. Either the guy is REALLY popular. Or really desperate. Something is not kosher in these issues. First how did the same guy engage with two different ladies at the same time? And why the hell are you girls talking about these things :)

"If you talk to him, people will think you're like him"

Only stupid people will think that! I used to hang out with people who had issues. Most of them got reformed and everything went to normal in their lives. It's not fair to think that if someone made a mistake that he is doomed for life! God is known for his mercy and forgiveness, and I have forgiven people who have done me wrong. Why would I hold a grudge against someone who didn't even hurt me!!? Just to keep up with people's appearances?!

I've seen way too many sluts in my life to say that such a behavior is limited to guys. Humans do it, all the time. I've seen girls dumping one guy for another. Flirting with the guy's best friend to make him jealous. I've seen girls having double and triple guys they called boyfriends! Such acts are not limited to men.

Some will say, you need to get married. But frankly, many of the married people I know are WORSE than me when it comes to paying attention to things. Some look even more. I really can't explain WHY, but I know that being married is NOT a silver bullet that will take this need away! Being fulfilled helps, but most are not! And I dare any of the married guys who frequent blogs at 3 AM to say that they are!

I know many of my loyal readers are going to have a hard time leaving a comment or a mark on this post. That's why I have whispers below. You can whisper what you want for me. And I will, as usual, not judge you for what you think .. to the contrary. I encourage you to let it out!