The alley cat

By: Qwaider

On:Monday, July 23, 2007 7:52:30 AM
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How many marriages does it take to find "Mr perfect"? As many as it takes according to "Sister" Amina!

"Sister" Amina is an interesting "sister". On the first look, shes this respectable, English teacher at the one of the local Islamic schools. A nice, veiled, mother of 6 children.

Nothing weird here, other than the number 6 which is a large number for most western world mothers.

But there's a catch, each one of those six is from a different father! Yep, there is one half white-half-black boy, one half-white-half-Hispanic boy, one half-white-half-Arab girl, one redhead boy, and two blond girls. Each one is from a father. All are paying Alimony and Child support to the "sister"

When asked, she replies, "I have committed no sin", and follows with "I was married, and it didn't work out". "So I didn't sin in the eyes of Allah"

The interesting part is that the six men share the same story. She kicked them out after she got pregnant! And since then their life turned to a living nightmare. Most can't see their kids while paying insane amounts of money for Alimony and child support. 3 have declared bankruptcy, and a forth lives on the charity collected for him at the local mosque after he lost his house, car and job.

It's such a sad world when people take advantage of each other, through loopholes in the system. All it takes is someone determined enough to crack it. And the rest, is history

This alley cat sure knew how to turn her womb, into a profitable business!

(This is a true story, from the mouth of one of the husbands. In addition to personal observations. The names have been altered just in case any legal liability here)

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#1
miss sea lover
Said
On: 7/23/2007 8:16:38 AM

walaaaa eshe!!!lol...jad!! waw...i know there many things in this story, but i would like to say..life is not fair...lol....someone get to be married SIX times, and other ZERO time...lol..strange world...

#2
Mohanned
Said
On: 7/23/2007 8:39:59 AM

Deer balak ya qwaider, shekelha btorsom 3lek :P

#3
Maioush
Said
On: 7/23/2007 10:32:23 AM

OH MY GOD... SIX of them??? what?
jad zai ma ba2ollo, eli be3esh yama beshoof!!! 2al "sister" 2al

#4
wonders
Said
On: 7/23/2007 10:39:22 AM

Wow! they should turn this into a movie. Even then people won't think this is a true story.
she has the guts to say she hasn't commited sin!

#5
Abed Hamdan
Said
On: 7/23/2007 10:58:44 AM

kollo ella el sisters :P

#6
Tamara
Said
On: 7/23/2007 11:02:16 AM

wow how come the husbands could not get a layer good enough to expose the sister : ) I guess real life is so much stranger than fiction

#7
kinzi
Said
On: 7/23/2007 12:12:59 PM

WHY is she a teacher? Who is allowing her to infect young minds with this sort of immorality? Only after a careful examination of the situation can a divorced woman teach in a Christian school. I'm not sure she would even be allowed in church. Doesn't the mosque have some kind of accountability structure?

I don't see how she can say she has committed no sin.

And her husbands were fools.

#8
sam
Said
On: 7/23/2007 3:47:33 PM

wow how sick is she??? it is just like a guy we know here, when he came to canada he told my dad look our third baby is on the way, the government is going to pay us 10k for him eh? well now with eight kids, welfare money, and the child benifits he gets he does not need to work at all..it sickens me...uggh i hate people like that!

#9
afaf
Said
On: 7/23/2007 4:29:21 PM

but, hey, alimony is dependent on his financial status, they cannot ask him to pay more money than he can provide...i know that for sure, so how did one of them file bankrupcy...
beside that doesnto make sense...she cannot deny a father visitation right unless proved unfit parent and that is not easy to prove...
so it is conspiracy theory now....????
it simply doesnot make sense to me...there is a missing part of the puzzle here....i am aware of women doing so for money, but this story is a bet WAS3AH shewaiyeh...sah???

#10
afaf
Said
On: 7/23/2007 4:33:19 PM

yeah, but Sam, by the time the kids turn 16 one by one, the money will decrease too...so by the last kid turning 16, the welfare wont pay them a penny...then what??? start working then when he is old...it is unbelievable and sick minded some ppl r...

#13
secratea
Said
On: 7/23/2007 5:29:31 PM

I know that there are many details to address in this article, but I just will focus on one now.
Kinzi, Muslims agree that marriage and divorce is a 100% halal (if the intentions are halal for both). The prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, called it "abghath elhalal= one can do it, but he( the prophet) despises it-- notice, he despises the action not the person). So, there is no space for argument, divorce is halal, but it must be the last choice, if life becomes impossible between the two-- we would never incourage an impossible marriage that might end in one murdering the other because there is no way out, sa7?
Anyways, this women's divorces are immoral, and one can call them, in particular, sins (not divorce itself) because (according to the narritive) she asks for divorce for no solid reason, and worse than that, she is making it a business! That it absolutely immoral in Islam.
Just wanted to make the distinction clear, and I am sure Q meant the actions, not the action of divorce.
I am curious to ask you Kinzi, I have a protestant, highly religious, room mate, and her older sister is married to a divorced man, who is as religious. He observes religion, and goes to the Church. Is that regarded as going against Church (or Christian) rules and regulations (divorced and goes to Church)? Me and her talk about religion every now and then, and talked about divorce. She said her parents had a problem with it at first, then they prayed and felt comfortable to bless the marriage. So the marriage was blessed, and he is also a Chruch goer. To make the anology, you said that a divorced woman won't be allowed to enter the Church so I guess that goes with both, male and female. However, this guy and many others (divorced) do go to the Chruch. And they are good Christians.

#14
kinzi
Said
On: 7/23/2007 7:37:56 PM

Secratea, the Bible says something similar: God hates divorce (Malachi 2:15) because it is associated with a man dealing treacherously with the wife of his youth. Moses allowed divorce in rare occasions, but the Jewish Pharisees of the time of Christ could divorce a wife for the oversalting of soup. That is why Jesus said "Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce, but in the beginning it was not so". He then goes on to say that sexual immorality (in present continuous tense, not a one night stand)is the ONLY reason a man could divorce his wife/or vice verse, as women had the right to divorce then. 1 Corinthians 7 goes on to say that if a woman has an unbelieving husband, she is not allowed to divorce him, but is free to remarry if he leaves her.

As Christians, we have a strong stand against divorce as we know that there is no problem that can't be worked out. Church leaders will lovingly pressure a wayward husband into right living, and likewise keep a disrespectful wife from demeaning her husband.

My point is this woman is manipulating a provision for material gain, which is making a mockery of Islamic teaching. As well as teh sin you pointed out.

Sec, let me tell you that I am divorced, too, and am somewhat an expert on the subject as I struggled through IF I could rightly remarry. I was not a believer when I married, my ex was a habitual adulterer, and he left me to move in with his girlfriend. I went straight to a church that held me accountable to live a godly and moral life. Seven years of celibate living later, when the man I was to marry and I began 'courting'(which means dating with no physical contact), his church contacted my church to make sure the divorce was biblical and I had lived morally.

I'm sure your roommate's brother-in-law went through a similar process, and intensive pre-marital counseling before marrying your roommate's sister. So of course he is welcomed in church, as I am. I cannot serve as a deaconess, but I have plenty of other ways to serve. Now the Catholic church is different, to them marriage is a sacrament, a way to earn God's favor. They don't allow divorce, but they have a way to get around that, I think it is called annulment, but it takes years and costs thousands of dollars.

So, if either of us had been married six times, without confessing manipulation of the provision for divorce, forget being welcomed. If I was an unbeliever, married six times, and became a believer and was sorry for my past sin, I would also be welcomed. But this hard heart, unrepentant, teaching children, NO WAY.

Sec, thanks for asking. Tell your roomie I said 'hey sis'

Qwaider, sorry to take up your space. :)

#15
Qwaider
Said
On: 7/23/2007 9:07:07 PM

Actually the case at hand is a "sister" ( A new convert) abusing both systems. Islamic and the US law. Divorce is allowed, and with it come a huge set of financial liabilities that the stronger (financially) has to provide for the weaker (financially). She's getting married Islamicly, and divorced by the law, therefore getting the benefits of both worlds. That's the unethical part (although, it's not a crime)

In a court of law, a mother of 6 will ALWAYS win in front of her single Divorcee. No matter how you put it. She's viewed as a better fit

As for the School, they really can't deny someone employment based on their beliefs or actions. That a violation of equal opportunity employment and may result in legal actions against the school.

Now, I wouldn't be accepting of a religious body denying employment for someone based on that! We're all human and there is no one without Sin. In fact, one of the disciples was "allegedly" a repentant prostitute (wasn't she??).

The fact is, god loves the sinners (too) and them making mistakes in the past doesn't mean that they're not qualified "academically" to teach materials school.

She's not a reported sex offender and has no history of domestic violence against her children. So as far as the US law is concerned she has committed no felony.

She calls her self a Muslim, but with the lack of Islamic core beliefs, I wonder. I'm not going to quickly judge her faith. That's between her and her god. But what she's doing is, unislamic, and unfair.

Now how did all of those men get fooled into it? Each one has their own story.

#16
kinzi
Said
On: 7/24/2007 7:28:01 AM

If she is a new convert, then what would apply is what I wrote above in the last paragraph. But, it doesn't seem like she understands the ramifications of her past. Perhaps she was raised to believe serial marriages and welfare dependency are OK, which I hope more mature Muslim woman will correct her on.

The way you wrote it gave me the impression she had been a Muslim all along.

The Bible states that one should not put a new believer in a position of leadership until they are proven, and to be a teacher is a an honor that requires a higher level of integrity. Of course God loves her, that doesn't have anything to do with it. His love for her includes His discipline (Heb 11) and training. But, my error is imputing a Christian context to a Muslim situation.

I will not judge her faith as a new Muslim, that is between her and God, but as a mother her track record is not a model I would want for my children as a teacher. Mistakes are one thing, a lifestyle of using men and depriving children of a father displays character weakness.

I'm sure in Jordan she would not be allowed to be a teacher in an Islamic school.

#17
Qwaider
Said
On: 7/24/2007 7:40:10 AM

I wouldn't be so sure Kinzi. Any business will not want to face a situation where it will be criticized for not being fair in their treatment. It doesn't matter if the school is religious in any faith. Rules of business conduct are what's passing and everyone needs to abide or suffer consequences.