It's weird how sometimes we tend to mix emotions and allow these emotions to cloud our judgement. Historically, (or maybe a common misconception) men have been more rational when it comes to these mater. (I'm talking about the common case here). For example two parents saw their child bleeding from the foot. You'll notice the mother getting too emotional and caring more about "the person" while the father maintains his temper and seeks to elevate the pain or remove any further threat. I just committed a generalization here. And I do apologize. But I am trying to give an example that people can relate to.
What brought all of these ideas to my mind is the "horrifying video" of a little child suffering from a severe case of "ichthyosis fetalis" a very serious congenital condition with severe abnormalities and is mostly fatal. The baby would look very deformed in the most horrifying of ways.
Now that the little history is out of the way, here's what I noticed...
As I viewed the video for the first time, and less than seconds after I was done. I found my self firing such an aggressive response filled with hate and frustration. Directing my anger towards the Nurses who were violating human behavior for me!
Few moments later as I regained consciousness. I started to analyse the content. What I found astonished me. It appears that I wanted to punish the nurses for the baby's condition! I wanted to tear them apart because the baby was suffering. I was appalled by the level of pain that I sensed coming out from the baby at the time.
But there's one catch! They didn't cause this disorder! They weren't directly responsible for the baby's suffering. It's true that I naturally sympathised with the baby. But all they did really was kind of show off a once-in-a-lifetime event on their cameras.
Not I'm not saying their behavior is acceptable. It's not. But now, suddenly the death penalty started to sound too harsh for me
This example reminded me of a number of incidents that I've witnessed. How I automatically sided with the person I thought needed the help. Only to discover that they have fooled my emotions by associating another cause (or an effect) to the emotion they were trying to push. Which is somehow the case of some of the domestic violence cases. We naturally side with the crying side. The complaining side and the weaker side
This is also the idea behind most commercials. When they promote a credit card they show you the fun that you could have with the credit. But that's just smoke and mirrors. They sell the idea of "Fun" "happy life" as if it's what their credit card shows
I think we should always remember to weigh our positions and reaction and make sure that they're actually directed towards the right direction, the right person. The right event. Not