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Domesticated Roosters

By: Qwaider

On:Saturday, May 19, 2007 11:55:12 AM
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In a recent visit to one of my dear -married- friends. I noticed something very interesting. The spark of manhood has been extinguished and has been replaced with a more docile entity. A new species, no longer male, nor female. A weird existence ... Completely alien to me. Funny thing I used to know that guy as a chauvinistic stud, more fierce male traits and very defiant character. This new monstrosity is not my friend(s)... This pigeon ... is not manly at all.

I remember we used to sit for hours, contemplate, and discuss everything. From politics to current events to religion and just about anything you can imagine. It used to be so good, it used to be so healthy. It used to be so intriguing and thought inducing.

Apparently, marriage tames the old beast, and I found us discussing MBC's Album and how the Jordanian dude Muhammad stayed after he was almost voted out. And how Fatina seems to be cute but a mean character, and how she has "come along way".

Frankly, I miss my old intelligent friend, and not the parrots repeating what their wives are saying. And how they left all their interests and hobbies behind to become domesticated full time house roosters... What a pity.

The sad part, looks like we're all (men) heading in the same direction!

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Memories....

#1
passing by
Said
On: 5/19/2007 12:08:03 PM

la2 mosh kullkum
ille ma beytjawwaz ma bykoon loh nafs elma9eeeer
Fa e5taroo ya tetjawwazoo ya t9eeroo domesticated roosters:D

#2
kinzi
Said
On: 5/19/2007 12:32:35 PM

Qwaider, this is so negative about marriage. I would like to hear what married men have to say about it.

#3
Qwaider
Said
On: 5/19/2007 12:39:27 PM

Kinzi, you mean what their wives allows them to say about it?

#4
Jumana
Said
On: 5/19/2007 3:15:58 PM

Come on Sam...things are not that bad...they still can talk, can't they? :)

just kidding.

I think it depends on the personality of the man and the woman..Personally, I don't respect such character…

I think every 2 married people are a stable system…if she plays the leader, it means that he is allowing her to do so.

#5
kinzi
Said
On: 5/19/2007 3:45:02 PM

Qwaider, I think your perception is a bit off on the power of women over men. All this negative, it's just not a good set-up for a healthy marriage for you.

What did I tell my husband were non-negotiables? black socks with khaki trousers. Do i ever tell my husband what to think or what to say? No way.

#6
Who-sane
Said
On: 5/19/2007 4:42:54 PM

I'm a married man. And yes it is true: I do find yourself becoming more interested in what I thought were trivial matters (Star Academy, cheap Syrian sitcoms and etc ...) just so I'd be able to have meaningful conversations with my better half.

But isn't that normal? I believe so and I really don't mind doing that because I also see my wife trying to find out more about stuff I like, so she'd also be able to converse with me on the same wavelength.

It's a compromise both halves have to do in order to have a healthy relationship.

#7
Who-sane
Said
On: 5/19/2007 4:51:29 PM

At the end of the day, it's really our choice: do you want to be a "arnab sa3eed" (a happy rabbit) or a "asad 7azeed" (sad lion)? because a happy lion doesn't exist, a myth, just like Superman :)

#8
أنونيموس
Said
On: 5/19/2007 7:59:51 PM

Yeah right. Did you ever consider that maybe he changed because he wanted to, or because his personality is more malleable? Maybe even not so intelligent as you thought [maybe he was hanging around smarter people before thus had more intelligent conversation topics than bull about music and tv from his wife].
Can't always blame it on the partner. Getting married doesn't mean that you have to change all your interests. Having kids doesn't mean that dinner conversations should revolve about Gerber and burpees. Although , I think it would be nice [and only fair] that the husband has a hand in these issues as well. He doesn't have to "change" to be that person. It's adding on more interests, not switching them.

#9
secratea
Said
On: 5/19/2007 8:19:36 PM

Q, it is the man's fault... do not blame the women for having a 6an6 husband...hehehe

#10
secratea
Said
On: 5/19/2007 8:20:35 PM

woman I mean

#11
caller
Said
On: 5/19/2007 10:49:14 PM

Congratulations Dear Qwaider.. third month smoke free :)
proud of you :)

#12
Devil's Mind
Said
On: 5/20/2007 12:36:51 AM

A shemale wannabe?! Lets not be too harsh and judgmental, let them be.

#13
Tamara
Said
On: 5/20/2007 7:56:51 AM

hmm if all men will speak their wife's mind after marriage, more reason to choose wisely : )

And who ever thinks they can escape the wife grip is delusional hehehe : evil:

Looool, damn funny!

#14
salam
Said
On: 5/20/2007 9:06:44 AM

Funny to hear you say that Qwaider, at the time when I was just thinking of the opposite last night. we were visiting a newly wed couple, not so newly, ya3ni more than a year, with another couple, and I was thinking that it is really nice how both characters melt into each other creating more interesting people, and at the same time offering each part of the pair this feeling of having a soul mate..You will see theis when you're married!

#15
The Observer
Said
On: 5/20/2007 9:31:20 AM

Don't remind me of how much my friends changed when they got married!! :SSS

I miss those old friends!

#16
7aki Fadi
Said
On: 5/21/2007 4:20:27 AM

How about the flip side? when women get married and they lose themselves and they only talk about tabeekh or their husbands or stuff man you REALLY DON'T WANT TO KNOW willa this or that, it happens to both sides.

What I say is as long as your friend is happy and not doing it ghasben 3anno then nialhom.

The problem starts when the man (or woman for that matter) do it and they are miserable. Ya3ni if they do it and they are pretending then you have a problem.

W ba3dain another thing, when you get married you are sub7an allah haik more busy, inno you single people have time to dwell on these things :) (keef bas intu single people ka2enkom from Mars LOL).

And Salams comment is cool.

shu had my comment is a jareedeh.

#17
أنونيموس
Said
On: 5/21/2007 9:55:54 AM

My comments keep getting errored out under the new posts!

#18
moi
Said
On: 5/22/2007 4:34:01 PM

I don't agree that women only have this negative influence on their husbands. You make it seem like most men were knowledgeable intellectuals who were suddenly stripped of that because they got married. And you make it seem like all women are superficial-Star- Academy-watching-desperate-housewives who have nothing better to do than talk about reality-tv to their husbands. I understand if you're simply relating an observation of one or a few of your friends, but it's naive to assume that most men are 'turned' into weaklings once they get married.
I presume that many of your theories will fall flat once you get married inshallah :)