Would you marry her?

By: Qwaider

On:Tuesday, May 08, 2007 6:45:13 PM
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The obvious answer is yes, but ... Just think about it....

So you've been going out with a lady, she's been sharing a major part of your life ... probably more than anyone else ... and then comes the time when you're considering settling down and marrying ....

Important Note: After reading the "INTERESTING" comments, I decided to add this update:
If you think this is ABOUT ME!! Then think again, this is NOT about me, this is just a hypothetical situation!

She's been there ... sharing your life ... your bed ... your world ...

Then ... your good old lady finds you a nice young girl from home, groomed since her birth to be the perfect wife, mother and companion ... She understands what you want more than you do ... you've not even met before.... fresh meat ... as they would say ...

The thrill of being with someone you have never seen before.... yet, what's expected of you is well known ... all too well ...

But what about the one that has shared and accepted all your flaws ... lived with you ...would you look back? would you stay with her?

Are you going to ever forgive yourself? or forget? or find comfort in the new situation?

Too many questions ...

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Memories....

#1
Luai
Said
On: 5/8/2007 7:34:13 PM

I don't think you ever forget.....

#2
Saned
Said
On: 5/8/2007 8:00:29 PM

Akh Samer, it's that time eh? lol. Anyway, assuming this person is at a mature age (ie. 24+) I think it'll be harder for to forget and less easier to accept.

#3
hamede
Said
On: 5/8/2007 8:08:53 PM

Do you love her.

#4
Mariam Ayyash
Said
On: 5/8/2007 8:26:58 PM

"shared your bed?" are u serious? do u really expect to get over her? isnt that why people get married before they get too intimate? not to be in a situation where they need to make a choice like that? what did u expect balla?!
but then again, why dont u marry the girl who shared ur bed? not good enough for the taste of ur good old lady? did u tell her about ur lady?

#6
Fire-Faten
Said
On: 5/8/2007 8:38:58 PM

I'm so disappointed in you... sleeping around ... shame on you!

#7
Qwaider
Said
On: 5/8/2007 8:57:20 PM

@ALL!!!
WHAT THE F....!!!!?
How do you people think!!? If I ponder on something does this mean I have Doubts about it!? Or WORSE that I HAVE DONE IT!

My god .. you people are so freaken judgemental!

This is certainly a classic!

Luai
Some people said, "That's normal, people get over it"

Saned
No it's not that time! What does that mean!? It's just a hypothetical situation that I'm thinking about!

Hamede
It's not about me!! Why do you people just jump to conclusions here!

Mariam
gosh!
Did you ever contemplate that some people might have shared some intimate moments prior to marriage?!
The matter for me is already settled, IF I was in that situation

Whisperer
I have no idea where do fools come in to play here! Fools for believing .. or fools for jumping to conclusions ...

FF!
What are you talking about! I wasn't sleeping around, and EVEN if was do you think I would be sharing that!! God ... you people are NUTS!

#8
Munther
Said
On: 5/8/2007 9:05:30 PM

hahaaaaa ! Went through the same dilemma my friend years ago and preferring to go for another lady than the one who you shared a lot with just because a new hand picked one from back home is available will come to bite you in the ass for years ! ASK ME ! Remember mate the grass is not always greener on the other side ! ;)

#9
hamede
Said
On: 5/8/2007 9:32:59 PM

Ok do he love her.

#10
Qwaider
Said
On: 5/8/2007 9:37:14 PM

If someone has been living with someone with no attachments for years. What do you think? I think he would probably have emotions for her

#11
Firas
Said
On: 5/8/2007 9:54:18 PM

Usually I tend not to think about such Hypothetical situations!

It all depends on the persons involved, there are no general rules you can follow in relations!
So it's best not to hear what others got to say or see what the general attitude is.

Just go with your brain and heart, it's that easy.
And of course someone you know is better than the little shy girl who has not been out of her parents home and know nothing in this life!

قويدر مشان الله غتجوز هلكتنا من هل الموظيع، طيب أدورلك انا؟ يا زلمة كثرلنا مواظيع الطكنولوجيا

#12
hamede
Said
On: 5/8/2007 10:01:59 PM

Ya 3an jad halektna,thank you firas.

#13
7aki Fadi
Said
On: 5/9/2007 4:45:22 AM

lol, this is funny...lol 3anjad I don't know what’s wrong with me I can't stop laughing

#14
globalorama
Said
On: 5/9/2007 8:26:19 AM

alf alf mabrook ya qwaider. bel rafah wal banin inshalla. bas leesh lissatak "sleeping around." mish minnak ya rajol. : )

#15
Faten H
Said
On: 5/9/2007 8:37:09 AM

i think the whole idea about hand picked fresh meat thing is disgusting.
So, no to marrying the girl he's never met.

#16
Tamara
Said
On: 5/9/2007 8:39:14 AM

If he loves the one he is with he should be with her, its not fair to the lady back home who in some cases are the fools the guys picture them to be. he will not tell her he was sleeping around so he will be in this case cheating before her walked in the door ! and another side for him, does he love the lady he is with now ? does he want her to be his partner for life, its totally different than having a " no strings" relationship than the mother of all commitments. and I don't want to go into hala and haram or children.

#17
Isam
Said
On: 5/9/2007 10:54:30 AM

it depends , if He is an hypocrat arab then he would leave her for the fresh meat ... if he's not he will stay with her ... simple as that ...

#18
Mariam Ayyash
Said
On: 5/9/2007 1:06:17 PM

yes i contemplate! and i came down to this conculusion, i watch movies "ghasben 3anni" on mbc2, with those love stories and end misreably or are soooo dark and depressing i feel i want go jump in and save the people from depression! (especially those set in the mid ages) everytime i try to think, why does this happen? and i follow the leads back to the original cause, its really because they allowed each other to become too close without marraige! 3ashan haiek bagool, thats what marriage is supposed to do, protect us from those depressing moments, movies like "love story" or "troy" i just add: serves them right!

#19
Saned
Said
On: 5/9/2007 6:36:48 PM

I meant this is the time where your thinking more seriously of marriage in general, not that this is the situation you are in right now...

#20
Qwaider
Said
On: 5/9/2007 9:02:58 PM

Firas
حرام الواحد يحكي او يفكّر
:(
These are hypothetical social situations that are very probable to happen. It affects many people

Hamede
7ader :'(

7aki
What's so funny? Da77keeni ma3aki ... the guys depressed me..

Globalorama
Thanks bro, Okbalak ... :) ... but for what!!?

Faten H
Absolutely, it is VERY disgusting and disturbing, that's why I chose those words

Tamara
Exactly, this is an issue on multiple levels. First it's not fair for the lady he's with. Second it's not fair for the future wife. And third it's not right for him because simply, there is no guarantee that he will be happy or find happiness
Alas, many people decide to actually do it ... and consider it... "change"

Isam
Absolutely ...

Mariam
I agree and disagree at the same time. What happens isn't necessarily the case. There is no guarantee that the bad experiences of some is going to be the case with everyone ... that's why the answer is a no brainier for me...

Saned
I've been in this situation for years... Why is it different now? :)

#21
Saned
Said
On: 5/10/2007 2:00:56 AM

The only difference is that I just got the vibe lol

#22
passing by
Said
On: 5/10/2007 2:14:10 AM

7beebee shoof,
ilmaw'9oo3 ille 3am bte7kee enta 3annoh , by79ol kteer fel 3aalam
bas mush ille bysawee heek ma by5aaf min rabboh a9lan .
so i conclude that a persn illee ma by5aaf min Rabboh illee 5ala2uh why would he give a damn about another person's feelings?
Bas mushkilt elshabaab eesh? bte3ref sho mushkilethum?
annhum bysaawwoo kulll shee2 7araaam bas lamman bidhum yetjawwajoo ydawwroo 3a fresh meat.
Wallah 7aletna 7aleh fee hazzzaman illa man ra7ima Rabbee.
That was just wat i thot and wanted to share
Nice blog:D

#23
7aki Fadi
Said
On: 5/10/2007 6:06:48 AM

id7eeket because everybody jumped on you , ma ba3raf kan haik amuzing. And the update was haik funny kaman.

And Hamede when he said, ya3ni he loves her, haik id7iket, ya3ni as if (and i am not putting words in his mouth) he was saying: ya right, ana sad2atak , khalini adary Q ...lol.

It reminded me when someone goes to someone and says I have a friend who has a problem when the problem is his, but I know you are not talking about yourself :).

#24
Abed Hamdan
Said
On: 5/10/2007 12:16:17 PM

شو ياقويدر كلهم بدهم يجوزووك

يالله شد حييلك

#25
Qwaider
Said
On: 5/11/2007 5:43:04 PM

Saned
Cool :)

Passing By
You do have a point. But not everyone who had an affair is a person with no conscious ... You have to understand that there are a lot o social pressure on young men (and women) to get married in accordance with their parent's approved selection...

7aki
Shayfeh ... shayfeh :'(
Many people do this, but I seriously have no issue with my parents (any more) they learned (the hard way) to leave this choice up to me :)

Abed
قولة ملاقط.... انداري
:)