His past, her past!
If you've been living on this planet for more than 16 years, there's a big chance that you've met people you've considered friends, people that you considered best friends, and people that you considered lovers. Then the inevitable happened, you broke up, you moved on and you met someone new. There's a more than likely chance that this scenario has repeated itself several times in the past. Then came "The One", and you go to a point where you want to share more than the present and the future, but also the past, would you?
Alright, We all know how double faced our society could be regarding many matters, but this is one case where it's extremely clear. It shows the difference in reaction or expectation from the society towards the very same thing. The issue of the "Ex(es)"
While males are encouraged to go out, experiment. Women are discouraged and frowned upon when it comes to this matter. Nothing less that complete purity would do in her case.
This is one issue that faces many parents, maintaining their bias and not only that, but also justify it to the growing protest from females. With results that could be categorized as catastrophic most of the time.
Women are growing up with increased resentment to their male counterparts, not as a direct result of their actions but rather because they've been treated differently while growing up. As these conflicting feelings start to precipitate, future relationships start to suffer even more, as these frustrations manifest themselves in many forms. The end result, males pay the price of their little privileges earlier in life, while women continue to suffer and in most continue to pass on the ill behavior to the next generation.
An interesting point in a relationship is crossed when the two decide to share their past with each other, the male, like a peacock would inflate his image with his -numerous- encounters. Why wouldn't he? He's got the support of the entire society polishing his feathers and making him shine even brighter with all these accolades under his belt.
While the female seem to be silent with "shame", or at least this is what the society has taught her to feel regarding her previous "failures". I find this specific position common even with ladies in the west. As having multiple previous affairs is also not very welcome.
Even worse, the male starts feeling betrayed and ashamed of what has happened. As if she knew, or planned it all along. Or that he existed in the first place!
This whole approach lead to the ongoing approach to this issue, "what you don't know, won't hurt you". Even if that means lying and hiding the truth. Nevertheless, it's still being considered an acceptable practice to keep problems at bay. Keep the woman safe, keep the man happy, and the society satisfied.
I think, if two people care about each other, they should focus and love the person they're with because of their past, not despite it. They wouldn't have been the same person had they taken a different path in life, and chances are they probably wouldn't have appealed to each other.
The past is just the past, there is nothing that is going to change that. So people, should keep it just as a memory, while focusing on the future and what matters the most..... each other!