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Everyday, I hear more and more people complaining about discovering their spouses on the Internet, chatting with strangers and divulging intimate details about their lives. Some even caught chat logs, voice messages and more. Many I hear guard their mailboxes like they're hanging for dear life

I can understand and appreciate maintaining a little privacy and individuals in the relationship, but guarding their hotmail boxes like it's a state secret might be a bit too much.

Some have complained that they even caught their spouses in the act of either having prolonged graphical chats with perfect strangers (or non strangers). These may develop to phone calls, encounters and even worse. Some other relationships develop and become even more complicated love triangles that strangle the whole family.

I personally attribute these growing problems to a number of factors

• House wives have too much on their hand
• The Internet, provides a fertile ground for predators to feed on people's frustrations. Especially when targeting someone when they're most vulnerable due to family issues
• The fact that many individuals are not completely satisfied with their marriage relationships and seek out to fill the void only to fall in the traps of someone else
• The feeling that anything you say or do on the Internet is like doing it virtually, and not actually and therefore it's like a game, of passion, hide-and-seek with all the adrenaline that comes with it.
• The husbands being too involved in their jobs trying to provide for their families leading them to spend extra hours at work neglecting their homes and their needs
• The silo civilization that we're getting closer and closer to. When our parents and grand parents used to know the whole neighbourhood or even the town, current couple barely know their next door neighbour, leading to simple things that used to keep housewives entertained and occupied (like tea or breakfast with the neighbors) and substituting all that with being online chatting with strangers
• The disappearance of a society support system to help elevate the day to day chores of the family. When our ancestors used to live at an arm's length from their families (and sometimes sharing a dwelling) the modern family lives farther and farther from their extended families, some thousands of miles away leading to feelings of loneliness and emptiness
• More and more western influence where infidelity is not looked down upon as�it it is in the middle east.
• Women are viewing flirting as a cool thing and not so taboo since nothing is wrong with that. Since they're young and pretty and need to feel attractive and what better way?

I'm telling you these things are home wreckers. An overexcited frustrated young man can (and usually will) say and do anything and everything to a female to gain her trust. While taking advantage of the courtship she provides. He might turn a blind eye to the fact that she's already in a relationship. This might include but not limited to promises of taking care of her after a divorce or if her significant other leaves her. Most if not all lie about this fact, for few reasons. Some of which are the fact that how would you trust someone who cheated on their first relationship with you? How can you afford such a relationship since you lied about almost everything about you. The fact that some of these young males come from families that might not bless a union with a woman with a past [But that's a different issue we'll talk about later], And many other reasons

I would like to summarize a bunch of indicators that may help identify impending issues,

• The couple is spending too much time away from each other (due to work, tiredness, loss of interest, kids ..etc)
• Each or one of the couples is spending extended amount of time on the computer
• Each or one of the couples is staying up too late hogging the laptop or at their desk
• Each or one of the couples keeps one or more email accounts totally secret from the their significant other and guarding their access with their life
• One or both are spending extended amount of time chatting with people
• One or both are making sure the other person doesn't know who they're chatting with

There are many other indicators for these issues, both need to keep an eye on the signs. and make sure the other person knows and understands any frustrations or problems they're going through. Communicating through heart to heart dialogue is the best way to remove these obstacles and if this doesn't work, marriage counseling might be the next step. The worst thing you can do is trust your significant other blindly. Keep an open eye, while continuing to trust the person. Give them the benefit of a doubt and if you have any doubts, bring it up with them. As openly and as frankly as you can.

Don't be afraid to face what's concerning you, before the issue proliferates and becomes unmanageable. And as they would say in medicine, "An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure"

May you and your loved ones live a long and a happy life, a happy and lasting relationships take a lot of hard-work, dedication and investment in time and money. Don't let the day to day struggle hinder your vision from what your family needs the most. YOU