Opposite sex Friends?
- By: Qwaider
- On:Tuesday, March 20, 2007 7:28:57 PM
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Every once in a while, I will come across a situation which affirms to me that members of opposite sex can not be friends, no matter what everyone thinks. It just doesn't work like that. True, women can have absolutely no interest in some (or most) men, but there is this genetic perversion in every man, the need to spread their seed!
I know some might think I'm crazy, but I'm starting to believe that regular friendship between any heterogeneous couple is almost impossible. Because it will always be polluted with the way many men think.
I know this does sound like "Harry met sally" cliche or "Ladder theory" but I find it very true that women will categorize men in two major buckets. Friends, and Lovers. Each having certain privileges and are expected to perform certain activities. As for the more linear male brain, it's how attractive (not pretty) a woman is.
Think of it this way, A woman's brain has an 2 axis, one for friendship, and another for acceptance. The higher a person scores on acceptance, the better their chances of being a lover. The higher their score on friendship, the better friends they are.
The Acceptance axes for women is multipart, it's not composed of a single item. In fact, so many factors come in to play here. Money, beauty, power, age, influence, and all the positive power adjectives are compounded here to generate the acceptance score. An ugly rich man, will probably score high on the acceptance scale, while a handsome poor one might not be as lucky. But it depends how rich, and how handsome. But all play in
As for the more primitive and more linear male brain. It's just the acceptance scale, friends don't even register. So what stops males from falling for every woman in their life? Many factors come to the rescue, from religion to virtue, to common sense
Why is it designed this way? I'm sure there is some deep rooted reason for all of his, ever since we were cave men. Remember we were cave men WAY BEFORE we had civilizations, and for far longer periods of history. This civilization "thing" barely started 10,000 years ago, which is way less than the time we spent as cave dwellers or just nomads out in the open
Spreading some one's seed is a simple act, while caring for this seed takes a very long time. That's probably why women are not obsessed with acceptance of many partners while men are. Genetics tells us, he who has more children, his genes will probably out-survive the others.
Back to this day and age, would there be a completely innocent relationship between men and women? Absolutely. But do men think of more? Probably more than women
Memories....
It can certainly handle more complexity
I donno about that...maybe !!
Bas about the advanced brain...wala marra...wala momken,
Men has the most advanced Brains in the history, it's so advanced that their owners dont have a clue how to run it !
Allah ykoon fi 3onak ...
At least women don't have enough testosterone to just fight for no reason like MOST men do!
I have male friends who i seriously consider the brothers I don't have for almost 10 years now...!
Maybe we should also consider the percentage of people with impotence as well!?
I'm talking about the main stream not the less than 1% of population exceptions
Dima,
You have male friends that you think that they think of you as a sister. I suggest you don't put that to the test
LADIES... As we cam see in the example of Devil's mind, men might even prefer friends, I don't see that as a negative thing so don't think that I'm against it. But I'm not in support of it either. As I've said before, I'm a social observer and like to talk about these matters
Anybody still has doubts?
Devil's mind, low lives like you are the ones that make all men sound so dirty, sleazy and disgusting. That crap that you just vomited you should keep to yourself. I don't understand how any sane female would ever be friends with a low life like you
Truely, if this is a generalization you are trying to make Devil's Mind, I am disapponted. I thought that men can live beyond their pens!
no no no, but seriously, it's a matter of brain over testosterone. just tell him to stay put, and you won't have a problem. also, not all women are THAT attractive! i mean come on, whatever happened to standards eh?
bottom line is, some can, and some don't have the mental capacity to do so. who's to blame? doesn't matter. but the important things is that self control is the one virtue that would save lives in this matter.
Qwaider says:"I know this does sound like "Harry met sally" cliche"
here is the cliche he is talking about:
Now Qwaider, I can argue about this cliché all day long, but i won't because i agree with you when you said "women categorize men in two major buckets. Friends, and Lovers. Each having certain privileges and are expected to perform certain activities", i deal with guys the way i think its right, i can't get inside each persons head to know what is he thinking of, all i care about is as long as that person respects me, not crossing the line by any chances its ok, i don't care what factor is playing the part here (religion, matter of principle, or common sense)...
To be honest .. I totally believe that women are strong creatures and that they can run the world if only they put their emotions aside …
One other thing: to have a friend from the opposite sex is difficult it's a risk … but there is no definition in the world says that friends are from the same sex .. nor any rule in the low says so ..plz .. let me give u these quotations to define the word" friend" :
Frank Crane:
What is a friend? I will tell you.
It's a person with whom you dare to be yourself.
Arestotal:
What is a friend?
A single soul dwelling in two bodies.
Alban Goodier:
A friend is the one who comes in when the whole world has gone.
Let me but it this way : if u are looking at ur female friends just to satisfy ur needs then plz chick ur virtue …
And plz no one takes this personal .. ana blabe neda2 elwajeb … :-)
بس بعد دراسة وظعك، بقدر أقلك انو.......بيع الأرظ و اتجوز لنخلص من مواظيعك
أبوها مش طايقك؟ أحكيلك معو؟
So all you got from all of this is that we think of women as sex objects? Come on now!
Mazz:
WOW! What a roller coaster comment, Yes, some can, most can't keep it in thier pants, and at some point it WILL pause a problem. ESPECIALLY if the lady is attractive
But About women having similar perversions like men!!! ALLAH YKOON BI 3OONAK!
Maioush:
Thanks for the script, I'll spend some time beautifying it to make it look pretty and legible
True, you can't get inside people's heads and figure out what they think of you. But sometimes it would be too obvious. Others ... well you know
Bara2:
I have no doubt in my mind that women are clever, and sometimes sneaky. But 10 years older (brain-wise) that's a little bit of an exaggeration. Come on! I think it's 5 until they both hit 25 then hey both grow at the same rate
Of course growing up and maturing is optional. Growing old is not
Let me add, Women ARE strong creatures and they DO run the world if you look closely.
Seebek from what people think of friends, and reflect on your self. What does friend means TO YOU! (certainly not two souls dwelling in two bodies, what did they leave to lovers!)
Bara2#2:
Some men are pure and honest. I think it's the highest level of purity and honesty to express your hidden emotions.
Luckily for men, Women are attracted to many other things (other than love) and no matter what MOST women will decide. Some women will still choose to sell themselves. It's the nature of the beast! So yeah, we WILL manage
I believe, Men are purer at heart simpler, and not bound by the same set of rules as women. They will go out and ask for something if they want it. (not cause all the cosmological events in the world so that the man on the other side of the universe gets the hint and gets her what she wants), you know exactly what I'm talking about ... all women, instinctively do
I know better than to get involved with friends. Gosh, If anything, I know so much stuff about my friends that COMPELL ME to stay the-hell away. But that might not be the case for everyone!
Beti:
You've obviously been around the non-creative type of men who get thier episodes of inspiration only in the bathroom :)
But, look, your mileage will vary. A roommate is not necessarily a friend. And guess what, I am sure you HATE the fact that most of your friend (or maybe only some) look at you as just a friend. The good thing for women is that, there is always hope that he will notice.. The BAD thing for men is that, if she notices, he will lose both, the lover and the friend
Google Translation:
Firas ... May happy your morning O God ... Hands up your belt Zalmeh you ... What we want problems .. Shoot cursed and concluded
(ابوها=Cursed!!!?) How did this one even translate like that!!! LOL
شو هاي my Hands up your belt?
مالك؟هسع الاجانب بفهموها غلط، ولا لاحكي لابوها انك شب ظايع و صايع و بتشم كاز و سولار و يوهو
Second: I agree 100% with Mazz: not only women have perverted ideas but they also take advantage of guys pretending to be friends but have ulterior motives, this kind of guy is sooooo easy to spot and figure out.
The way we take advantage is by getting them to do stuff for us from washing the car to teaching us how to drive to borrowing their PC for 6 months...HE HE HE women are Evil man, more evil than you think.
Now can someone remind me how women are "oppressed" and what ever other junk feminists try to feed us?
God gave some of us the muscles, and others the steering wheel... :)
Oh lord have mercy!
I like the way you put it... Sure, why go far when you can share precious moments with the dear ones.
Faten: Yes I am a dirty guy... and hoping to get the dirtiest living person award... A man can only dream though!! I guess a low life girl would get along with a low life guy like me. Sad but true!!
God, the nerve of some people!
Grow a backbone or you wont be able to support that swelled head of yours.
morons
fools
idiots
What's wrong with a mild conclusion? Does it have to be parting of the sea level? Why can't I work on getting conflicting point of views closer? That is "problem solving for testosterone overdosed delusional males"
Thanks for continuing to prove Einstine was right
Read dumb-ass! Read... its {"Parting-of-the-sea" + "level/class"} = Huge/big/Biblical-proportion... The whole thing is one term. But morons can't really understand terms that are longer than oh .. one syllable!