Arab men, Arab women
I'm touching on this matter again, because once again, as I browse around blogs and read people's comments. I keep getting the same interesting responses. Mainly unmarried Arab ladies, in their twenties, just fuming over Arab men. How these men are selfish, chauvinistic, hypocritical and liars.
I keep touching on this because as an Arab man, I'm deeply offended by these words. Not only are they unjust generalizations, but they serve absolutely no purpose.
I'm updating this article because some people seem to think that it insinuates things I didn't mean it to. So for the sake of clarity, this article has been updated
I on the other hand am a great proponent of Arab women, I am deeply proud of them, and extremely fascinated by the achievement, worthy causes on the path of social justice and amazing success in just about every field there is.
Growing up, I learned that every human, male or female is just as valuable, and has as much to offer to enrich human civilization each from their own perspective. Each from their own post. I also learned the absolute necessity of diversity and how no one can live without other people who might be dissimilar in physical appearance. Yet just as important intellectually and have a lot to offer humanly, socially, scientifically and are a corner stone for future human evolution.
What strikes me as odd is the fact that such ladies, with all due respect, are continuously laying the foundation for another generation of narrow minded, racist and discriminatory practice. It doesn't matter who does the discrimination the fact of the matter is that it exist.
In one remark, someone mentioned that Arab men are hypocrites. I would like to examine that a little bit closely. Is it true that all Arab men are like that? And if this was the case, is it truly localized to Arab men or it's also an intrinsic feature of Arab women as well?
- When a specific lady boasts that she's religious, wearing the veil and basically flaunting to the universe that she's better than all the rest with her virtue, while secretly keeping male relationships that might not all be innocent in nature,
isn'tWouldn't this too a form of hypocrisy?
- When a woman decides to perform every sexual act in the book sans penetration sex and still brag about her virginity and chastity.
isn'tWouldn't this too a form of hypocrisy?
- When some ladies end up having non-Arab lovers knowing deep inside that it's not going to last and that she will end up marrying some unsuspecting Arab guy,
isn'tWouldn't this too be a form of hypocrisy?
- When rules like "It's OK as long as no one knows about it" are so often repeated that it reaches a level where most would think that it's inspired by the divine. Wouldn't this also be considered hypocrisy?
- When an Arab lady knows that her brother or relative has a drinking, women, or gay issues yet she presents him to all her friends as prince charming who divinely descended to this planet.
isn'tWouldn't that a form of hypocrisy?
I'm not trying to say that men are better or their actions are justified. Or that the Arab society is just and forgiving towards women because we all know that it's not. What I am trying to say that although some cross the line, many many more abide by the rules, and are exemplary in their actions. Yet they are shamelessly and unjustly bundled with the loose pack.
Don't many Arab Ladies realize how difficult it is for a guy to maintain his sanity let alone chastity and virtue in a world that is practically flooding with every possible alluring vice ever created easily accessible and right at their nose? Wouldn't people like that deserve admiration? Wouldn't people like that deserve acknowledgement and recognition for their amazing resilience and defiance in the face of unfavoring odds?
Too many questions with so very few answers!
People like me who have vowed not to ever submit to the temptation, and have decided that no matter what happens, they will only end up with an Arab lady, not because they don't have a choice or that they view other women as inferior but because they deeply believe that they want to be a link in a continuous chain of amazing tradition, and respect their existence and the existence of their ancestors by never, ever following the easy way out, and follow the harder path of being with an Arab lady that they will respect, cherish and connect with till the last day in their life
I know that some men would marry on the eve of their wife's death. But I also happen to know men who couldn't bear living without their partners and just followed their partners to the grave. The examples on both sides are abundant. So it's really a unfair and a shame to just put everyone in the same bucket and just consider all the same chauvinistic hypocrites.
I don't know what many Arab ladies have faced in their lives. I'm sure their positions are justified, but basing all their argument on the few men in their life is an extreme disservice to all the men out there!
And to All of you Arab men reading this too, remember that people ARE watching, You represent us ALL, make sure you give the right example. For the sake of everyone, but before all, for your own sake
I didn't mention all of the above to mandate or force people to think that it's up to me to decide how they live their life or if their personal choices and behaviors are any of my concern. They are not.
The examples I gave above do mention certain acts, but I totally believe that some of the actions being done are totally up to the people doing them. What's wrong in this case is that people are viewing what some men are doing, and considering it hypocrisy. That's the wrong part and that needs to go away
Maybe they have in fact done things, how is that hypocritical? Who knows, maybe they learned a thing or two.