Fadi:الله يرحمها و يجعل مثواها بعليين و يجمعك معها بالجنة بعد عم%
بلوجر بالعربي:looks very good
بلوجر بالعربي:مفيد جداً
Noura:Different home, but same longing and nostalgia .. it seems we are chasing a mirage , Beirut of my dreams does not exist nor the people i miss .. i don't know if my gains were worth the losses ? I
price waves repeat:The other day, while I was at work, my sister stole my iphone and tested to see if it can survive a 25 foot drop, just so she can be a youtube sensation. My iPad is now broken
Sara:You can say that again!God Bless🕊
ياسمين حميد:كما هي طبيعتنا نحن العرب، عند الانتقال بين منصة وأخرى لا نحت%
Sara:No, never meaningless.. amen ya Raby🙏God Bless🕊
Qwaider:These possessions are meaningless as you said, but it's still painful to let go :( May Allah grant you all you wish for and unite you with your loved ones
Sara:Wallah bro we literally own nothing, not even our own flesh & blood.. I always wished to have a corner, a special wall, and never did. Moved more than you can imagine, and currently not having my own
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Memories....
Life does go on.
Sitting at home with kids in a foreign country for months at a time is guaranteed to put you in depression.
Inshallah I hope you both guys will feel better.
حياك الله اخي
فعلا هناك سيدات العيش معهن نار و الحياة معهن تصبح اشبه بالكابوس و خصوصا ان كان الزواج تم بعد قصة حب فالرجل لا يستطيع فراق زوجته ذات السلوك الغير اللائق لسبب من الاسباب و يعيش في تعاسة.
و حو لنا امثلة متعددة
نجا الله اخوتني منهم و هداهن الله
لكن اخي كما قال لك صديقك في اخر جملة و هي خلاصة تجربته
"الفرس، مهما كانت اصيلة، عليك لجامها... و إلاّ ... رمتك"
لا تتنازل كثيرا فسرعان ما ستنفذ من التنازلات ..
و هذا صحيح جدا
الامور كلها تدور في فلك التربية التربية الصحيحة تفرز اشخاص اسوياء و لديهم اخلاق.
أطيب المنى
نزهة .. الجملة انا قلتها لصديقي و هي خلاصة تجربتي انا
عرابي، هلا بيك يا رفيق :) اشتقنالك... احببت ان اؤكد لك ان الموضيع اعمق مما وصفت، صحيح .. "قد" تساعد زيارة .. و قلا لا تساعد ابدا.. بل قد تعمّق الشرخ.. بل قد تفسح المجال لدخول لعيبة جدد الى ارض الملعب. وجود عمل، و هوايات عند المرأة و ما الى ذلك ايضا يساعد.. لكنه قد لا يكفي... و اقول هذا طبعا و عندي امثلة كثير.. فكما قالوا قديما الحب وحده لا يكفي. و عندما يستقر النزق و عدم الرضا و الفوقية و الأنانية عند الزوجة... انسى... و اعتقد وبكل صراحة بنظريتي:"ان وجعك ضرسك.. يا بتحشية .. يا بالزبالة بترميه"
نمر... العملية مش بالبساطة اللي الكثيرين بيتوقعوها... في بيت، اولاد .. تبعيّات... كم من رجل في هذا العالم ضحى بكل شيء... ليبقى هيكل البيت منتصبا...من اجل ابناءه.. من اجل زوجته و ان لم تعي.. يعمل الرجل كالحمار و يتحمل كل الأذى و المهانة و قصر العمر .. حتي يوفر الحياة الكريمة.. فهل من تقدير؟؟ بعض قليلي التجربة و الوعي الاجتماعي و الخبرة يرون ان المرأة دائما المضروبة، المهدورة الكرامة، المضحيّة .. في حين ان تضحية الرجل ... أي رجل.. قد تفوق تضحية كل النساء.. لكن سأقول.. التضحيات متساوية ..
ديما... بكل تأكيد... كلامك صحيح و اتفق معك 100%. فالزواج بالفعل اكثر مما يتوقع الجميع
سمسم... حسنا .. :)و لا رد لك .. لكن قد يكون "لا تعليقك" اعمق بكثير مما يتوقع الناس
...pssssttt...can you pass the name of the place ;)
(kidding)
ya3ni el beni adam fena ba3d kol el araf elli bseer ma3ah bara el beat el mafoor yrawe7 3ala beatoh mshan yerta7, yensa hmoom o mshakel edenya elli barra (hala2 an ma 3am ba2ool kalam aflam bs ya3ni eshi o menno).
el zawaj mawadeh o ra7meh o e7teram motabadal, 7atta law sar 5elaf o kol beat beseer fi 5elaf, bs taree2et el ta3amol m3 el mawdoo3 3omorha ma betkoon heak. el mafrood el zalameh fi beato elo e7teramo (o ana ma ba7ki yseer zai seed sayed bs el mafrood y7es b ahameyto fi beatoo) l2nno walahi ay zooj fi el ednya t2adr o marto 3amalto mnee7 ana met2akdeh ella ysheelha 3ala kfoof el ra7a o 3omro ma ra7a (o redaki la terdi)o 3omro ma ra7 yheeneha o wala yezlemha.
It is very hard to sit down and talk with a loved one, and outline what it is that they are doing that makes you upset, this may hold them back from discussing their problems leading to the creation of the wall of silence.
Does she have friends there? Sometimes time apart having fun may lift symtoms of sadness and help in tackling this wall. Her husband could offer to look after the kids for a day/evening while she goes out with people she knows? or visits them? Then build on that.
I know it is generic, but they have to talk this out, avoiding conforntational terminology or accusations.
It's either that, divorce or a lifetime of resentment.
امل مع احترامي، هل عندك شك للحظة ان ما ذكرته هو حقيقة كونية؟ هل هناك امل لسفينة بدون كابتن؟ احيانا علينا ان نقسى في تصرفاتنا حتى تمشي الحياة
Poor guy, I would take his advice though.
about your friend...we don't know the wife's reasons and arguments..no one can judge her..
some times lama n7awel nsahel 7ayat 3'erna befham enna 3m netnazallo... ma befham eno bne3mel hek bmazajna mshan ne7na ma ben7ub n3a2ed el 7ayah..
And when one life partnerhas a limited mind life becomes hell!
No more words to add!
There's always advices and hidden messages in every story, only wise people look at other's and learn from them
Tamara
Absolutely
Manal
Yes, that's -sadly- the status of the Arab guys in the west. Many are "Lost" which is a good way to describe them. Drugs, Substance abuse, domestic violence and many other social diseases
Naryat
That's true, many people misinterpret "compromise" as weakness... It's sad
Allah 2ikoon bi3oonhom.
That's how every dictator justifies his brutality. If this is what marriage is supposed to be, to the hell with it. What's the point of a ship the people on it are so miserable they want to throw themselves overboard? Let the ship sink a7san.
It might be directed towards, the situation, the marriage, the relationship... right?
Laila, maybe :)
Teach her to paint,
Do pottery
Learn crochet(he became a master, and teaches others)
learn to make soap
learn to play the piano
bought books
cruises, vacations, getaways ... you name it
Do some voluntary work
Go to grad school
He failed to have her pick interest in any of these
Now, regarding what I said, although it's multi meaning and I really picked it specifically like that, my personal position on that, if you must know is that the man is the king of that castle. He's the one responsible at the end of the day AND he's the breadwinner. That puts him in the position of "head of a household".
Women may choose to disagree with me on that, but that's fine by me. I'm not changing my mind for that, nor am I looking to marry another man.
Anyways, if your friend made countless efforts as you say, and yet she was never satisfied, she is weird! And because she is weird, it is not a wonder that she is carrying it all out on him!
About your last statement, enta 7ur. However, now to take it back to the story you are talking about, and after all the evidence of her husband trying to get her busy and satisfied with something in her life( pottery, Grad school,piano, etc..) , and she insisted on making his life hell, she doesn't only deserve lajim!
Regarding your friend, he seems to be an angel from the skies, so if he divorces her, I wll agree on marrying him, shart enno he offers me all what he offered her..looool. I will also take care of the children if he keeps them :D
Trust me, no one is an angel here, but many do try, and very hard. But as you have noticed, some people are just never satisfied
the point is, u've only heard his point of view, but u didn't hear HER point of view... so before u judge her, i guess u should hear her side of the story too...
i donno if ur friend works or not, but if he's still studying, and his parents r sending them money, then this might be the problem... simply coz this gives his family the right to interfere, and no lady likes that! her house is her kingdom... not his mom's ;) another point is, after being married for more than a couple of years, and specially after having kids, a wife wants to feel secured, and to know that they have saved enough for their kids education, and for their future when they grow old... (btw, women tend to compare their lives with others,,, if her/his sister for example r living in a better way, or if her friend's husband treats his wife in a nicer way, then comes the Q, why???)
ur friend has tried a lot, but did he ever try to talk to her and aske her what's wrong? why is she acting this way??? (he has to ask in the right time!)... he has been trying to involve her with so many activities, but didn't succeed, did he ever wake up 1 morning, and decide going somewhere together, a trip or smth (just the family, no friends or any1 else)... or did he ever ask her "what would u like to do this weekend?"
1 last thing... when a lady says yes for some1, it's coz she saw smth in him, she liked smth about him, if he can show her that side of him again, if he can make her feel the same way she did about him during their engagement, then i guess he wins :)
Hi family lives 8000 miles away, and he doesn't allow them to interfere with anything
They've been married for 7 years, and have 2 kids
Women tend to compare (A negative thing about women) so not going to comment about that.
He tried to talk to her, all the time, but when someone is not talking back to you, it's really hard to know why.
Yes, he tried to take her somewhere, just the two, just the family... yada yada ... Anything you can and can't think of he tried
He loved her for 8 years before they got married!
I am having a problem with everyone trying to give women (ALWAYS) an excuse. If it was the other way around would anyone care to give the guy an excuse!!!? Why don't we understand that MEN are victims TOO!?
if they have been in love for 8 years (8+7=15 years of love), and married for 7 years, then smth must have gone wrong, the question is, why did she change in the 1st place??? (what is it that he did, or that she "thinks" he did, and made her act this way?)
if he keeps on nagging on her to tell him what's going on, she might get angry, start yelling, slam a door in his face or smth, but in the end, am 1000% sure that he's gonna get the answer... (although i have a feeling he knows what's wrong... coz we usually don't totally stop talking to some1 unless we're sure he knows why :)