السماح من الأمور التي لا نستطيع التحكم بها ، فهي ليست زر يتم الضغط عليه بارادتنا !
الناس قدرات ... منهم من يملك كمية كبيرة من التسامح في داخله فيستطيع العفو عن أمور كبيرة جدا مسته في حياته ، و منهم من لا يملك أي قدرة على التسامح فلا يستطيع أبدا أن يسامح غيره على أذيتهم له مهما كان حجمها بسيطا !
فهل التسامح يخلق مع كل انسان بكمية محددة مسبقا أم ينمو معه بناء على الظروف التي يعيشها و التربية التي يتلقاها ؟
و هل قدرات الناس (ومنها التسامح) هي نتاج لحياتهم أم مشوار حياتهم هو نتاج لقدراتهم ؟
و هل التسامح هو ما يجعلنا ننسى من أذانا و ننسى أذيتهم لنا ؟
أم كوننا سامحنا شخصا ما ليس بالضرورة أن يرافقه نسياننا لأذيته ؟
و هل ممكن أن ننسى دون أن نسامح ؟!

مش عارفة !!!

حاسة حالي كتبت بوست ، حتى لما أعلق ما بقدر أنسى اني بلوجرجيه :-)

guess we juat need to learn from Profit Mohammad and just forgive and forget... holding grudges is a no no! I hate to think of hate, malice and rancor!

i give ppl only one chance to commit mistake and that is it, it sounds bad or tough or even harsh, but knowing that the mistake i am talkign about has to be a big big big mistake and then it is over...not  asilly mistake to commit...
that is my rule in life, just one of those mistakes and i am out of it,i cannot forgive after ward, not cuz my heart is black or hate ppl...but iknow that when i give ppl chance it is a fair good one, not just one chance...i have been hurt b4 so many times and not willing to take chances anymore to get hurt again..
and when we cnanot forgive it is ok, to pray against ppl who hurt us, i have nothing against it, it is human nature im a not gonna be against it...
i might sound so resintful or hate ppl and life, but i do not, it is just a human nature in us and we all vary regarding this...
sometimes i wish i can be more control of my temper...but that is gonna take long time to achieve...
peace all...

in my view point ,,, to forgive person that depand on the attuide
that made miss understanding between us ,,, but to forgive enemys that Impossibles cuz they like what u wrote destroy our lifes and wanna distroy our HISTORY ,,,,,,
Nice topic to disscuss .......

yeah it is hard to do cuz u will have only few ppl around u...i know that for sure, but it is better than having many who hurt me once, beside even if i cannot forget and fogive them, i will be self deceived, cuz i know me....i will pretend, but deep down inside, who knows...i do...

Well, once the issue that you want to forget someone for is a personal issue, then its up to you and when you forgive, its a indication of your nobility and strength of Character.

But when the issue is of injustice done, and oppression to weak person or people, there should be accountability, and no forgiveness.

As this case is the only time forgiveness will not be considered e a virtue, but rather being a partner in the crime (if you remain silent and did not stand up for what is just and help in stopping the aggression and transgression).

That’s why Allah on the Day of Judgment, he may forgive what is his, but will not for sure forgive what is for other humans over each other.

Forgiving can lead to Hell or Paradise how about that?