Myth buster: Happily ever after

I guess, happiness comes with an expiration date. The minute you open that package, you better keep it refrigerated.

In most cases that I witness. I see people heading towards the unhappy state. Most exist in the neutral state, not happy, not sad.

People are skilled actors, skilled liars. They seem to be very accustomed to showing the world different to what they have in their souls. People seem to always show that they're happy in a relationship, either out of fear due to dependency, or due to custom.

With all these lies, the major issues seem to get masked, If the source of unhappiness is his or her family, financial trouble, children issues, or even sheer boredom. Which is probably the cancer of all marriages and relationships

I guess, people need to continue to evolve, look at ourselves. We make huge strides before marriage to get places and become worthy. yet, the minute we do get married we sort of get numb and the passion and ambitions seem to burn out. Same goes for women, you see her competing with super models before marriage, yet after that she seems to enjoy becoming just a housewife, of if she has a job, to get torn between the two, and due to that, her ambition and her "self" is just neglected.

There is something called the "Four year itch" where people seem to hit quite often (some call it three year itch, some call it seven year itch) but looks like this "itch" does affect couples and during such "itch" the couple or at least one of them seem to seek fulfillment in either extra marital affairs or by picking up hobbies or something that fill their time

Oftentimes this fulfillment seems to come from getting more involved with the kids, which maybe a benign activity, although it should be known that once the kids get independent, or start going outside of the house, these issues would resurface again.

So.... are we doomed?

NO. Not by a long shot. The best approach to these issues to keep evolving maintain a certain level of individualism between the couple and continue to fall in love with the partner. One shouldn't give up if they had a bad couple of years. Keep finding things you enjoy, and keep falling in love ... over .. and over ... Just make sure the fire continues .... and understand that starting over, might not be as easy as handling and fixing the issues