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Over-succeeding?!

  • By: Qwaider

  • On:Friday, May 08, 2009 5:44:41 PM
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    Ever done something so well that caused the whole underlying system to crumble?

    It's like someone inventing a car that you can buy for $200. Runs on water vapor in the air and gives 5000 miles per gallon of water. Goes 0-60 in 1 second and has an unlimited range. What would happen? It would destroy the oil companies, the road systems, the metropolitan areas and would be really harsh on the raw materials these cars are made of.

    Sometimes, things like that happen. You did something so well that the whole underlying system would start to come apart at the seams.

    If you build a robust system, (similarly established a solid relationship). It would be very hard to overwhelm this system with almost anything you throw at it. It just works despite the stress, and the major variables.

    However, those systems (and relationships) are extremely rare. Most are made of spit and patch work (or as we say in Arabic, "Bzzi2 oo Lazzi2" as in spit and stick) causing the system to fail under pressure, stress or other unanticipated factors.

    The same thing is very true in relationships. A family is usually a very strong system. Parents and children can almost withstand anything life throws at them, most of the time. However, personal relationships between people, don't follow that path, although it does happen rarely. All it takes is a little strain on a relationship and BAM it's gone!

    Over-succeeding can be one of those factors that cause a relationship (in a system, between humans) to fail. It provides the huge pressure that causes the whole system to just crumble. Although, most women learned to deal with (and enjoy) their partner's success. Men are a whole different story. Which leads me to continue to believe that Women are way more developed emotionally than men. Despite that going out of hand most of the time. The emotional superiority of women allows them to withstand such pressures. While many men would just crumble!

    Anything you can imagine, needs to be put to the test. Your relationship, your partner, that car you drive, the tires, even your very own existence. You need to know how much it would take before breaking. So you won't end up over-succeeding in one area and miserably failing in another. We call this "Stress test".

    You just never know when your "stress" would become the normal thing that you need to cope with

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    • Eman
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    • On: 5/8/2009 7:49:36 PM
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    I can imagine that succeeding alone takes a toll on any relationship. Over-succeeding is definately going to have a stronger stress toll by far.
    Personally, I don't believe that "over-succeeding" is healthy for anyone. To do that, you have to be willing to give up on basically everything in your life to make room for that specific goal. Balancing out your goals, relationships, and responsibilities is the healthest choice in my opinion.
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    • Qwaider
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    • On: 5/8/2009 8:54:43 PM
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    You know Eman, this whole thing makes me respect my father's look on life. He didn't have a chance to have a good education. While he pushed and pursued higher education for his wife and children. I think it takes a very stable and mature person to have such qualities.
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    • Eman
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    • On: 5/8/2009 10:07:02 PM
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    Absolutely, I agree 100%.

    Honestly, I believe that it takes a "real" man to do what your father has done and I respect any man who is willing to make these kind of sacrifices.
    I know that in our culture, a man is considered weak if he choses to encourage his wife to succeed or achieve better than he. I also understand that "gender role stereotypes" are everywhere, but in our culture it still is a major issue.The thing is, it actually takes courage, maturity and confidence to break the cycle, which are characteristics your father possesses.

    I truly applaud him for his actions. Now we'll just have to wait another century for someone like him to come around......lol
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    • Marvin
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    • On: 5/12/2009 4:44:16 AM
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    True enough. Unless you suffer, you'll never know what you're capable of. People are often surprised at what tests they can weather.
    You too can have your Memories Documented

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