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By: Qwaider

On:Tuesday, November 18, 2008 12:26:45 AM
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I am starting to think that we [bloggers/readers] are holding other bloggers in such high esteem to the point that we really forget how arrogant, egotistic and stupid they really are.

Can you think of the negative things about blogging? Let me help you explore the darker side of blogging..

Mandatory disclaimer!
Folks, this doesn't mean that EVERYONE as in EVERYONE is like this. However, I can't hide my disappointment in so many

Bloggers are a special breed of humans, similar in every way you can imagine to humans. But they do have a dark side...

90% of all the blogger names you know, are FAKE! (And if you read this and THINK that I mean YOU, then consider this. You're not alone)
Bloggers practice the ugliest form of dictatorship on their blogs. "It's my way, or the highway"
Bloggers are showoffs, MOST of the time about things they are completely clueless about. YET, rule 2 applies.
Bloggers are exhibitionist by nature. If it wasn't blogging and had they had better looking bodies. Many would have landed on the covers -and centerfolds- of magazines
90% of bloggers think of blogging as a "therapeutic" experience. I wonder, what are they trying to get therapy from? And wouldn't a "professional" be a better alternative?
You can tell if a blogger hates you, or have something against you. All you have to do is say something and watch him:
1. go crazy all over you.
2. Completely ignore you.
3. Mock you, make fun of you, or how you think ... you idiot!
4. Delete your comment or
5. Block you from accessing their site or from commenting
Every single blogger (Especially the ones who claim not to care) care about:
1. Number of hits.
2. Number of Comments.
3. WHO are the commentors.
4. who/where people link to him.
Every single blogger (Especially the ones who claim they don't) Brag about Item 7. (See point 4 above)
Every single blogger THINKS the world was a mess before him. And became crap after him, as the "riffraff" discovered their way around "his"-blogosphere
If a blogger takes on ANY project, just look at what's in it for him.
If a blogger can't beat another. He would take every opportunity to lurk and jump on his enemy. If he can't. He'll just side with anyone ELSE against that guy. Just a sign of true weakness!
If the blogger is a member of a blogging social network (like Global Voices, Voices Without Votes or 7iber), they continue to follow rules in point 6.2. Ignoring you even exist.
There's a lot of back-channel-politics that go off line. On Messenger, in private Emails, over coffee, over the phone and using SMS, don't assume everything that you read online to be true

Therefore I have few advices to people when dealing with bloggers:

If think super highly of most bloggers. Don't! You'll only get disappointed!
If you disagree with something KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT! (commentors on this blog are exempt from this rule)
If I happen to piss you off, well, sorry, but I happen to speak whatever comes to my mind.

Now, WHO is your most favorite blogger, so I can disappoint you with some facts about him?

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#1
Maher
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On: 11/18/2008 2:09:05 AM
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Wow wow..Easy there Tiger :P
Why so mad? :P

I am sorry to say this but i think you are right about this although i may wanna add a new point to this issue..

Dont you think that we may have Some Exceptions here and there?
I mean Some bloggers may be so true about their blogs...right?

while others can be even more interesting in real life than the sound on their bloggers..right?

;)
Peace out!

#2
Qwaider
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On: 11/18/2008 2:22:24 AM
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Exceptions do exist. But they're rare, and so far apart. If anything, these exceptions confirm the rule
As for people being more interesting in real life than they are on their blogs.... LOL! You have got to be kidding me! People with interesting life don't have time to blog my friend :D Sorry, I think this sentence offends many bloggers. But it's true. Unless you blog once a year just to show how fantastic your year has been. And in that sense, you really don't need a blog!

Add points, go ahead, I encourage you to do so :). Oh and trust me, I won't bash you for objecting ..

#3
Maher
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On: 11/18/2008 2:30:58 AM
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"People with interesting life dont have time to blog" :S

Totally disagree..
(here is how i am gonna prove my point..)

Define Interesting? is Being a celebrity interesting enough for you?

then how come many celebrities have their own blog? ;->

#4
Qwaider
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On: 11/18/2008 2:47:16 AM
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Cuz they simply have nothing better to do in life :)
LOL!
They're just riding the fad wagon

As for writers who are using Blogs as their methods of faster distribution, again, they're just trying to find an avenue to get to readers faster. And most are not very happy with blogs by the way...

For people with their own shows on TV AND BLOGS .. now talk about doh! It totally defeats the purpose. But many use it to actually allow their viewers to interact with them. But not really in the same way that I or you use our blogs

#5
Nizar
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On: 11/18/2008 3:53:54 AM
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you are my favorite blogger, disappoint me :D

#6
Qwaider
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On: 11/18/2008 4:07:37 AM
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Thanks Nizar, I would love to, but, you see, I don't deny these ...

#7
Batoul
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On: 11/18/2008 4:44:42 AM
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LOL @ Nizar
well well welll, going a little too harsh there...
I only partially agree :D and that would be ME speaking whatever comes to my mind. I've started blogging when I was at one of the best days of my life and loved it.. I didn't need it because I was a low life :)

I guess you're taking things from your perspective?

#8
Qwaider
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On: 11/18/2008 4:49:54 AM
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Actually, no... I'm not taking these things ONLY from my personal perspective. But again, read the disclaimer :)

#9
jessyz
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On: 11/18/2008 4:53:37 AM
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A blogger only controls his little blog, readers are still free to go elsewhere and they usually do when they don't find a blog worth their time. Who are you disappointed in?

#10
Krystal
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On: 11/18/2008 5:37:43 AM
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My favorite bloggers are:1.Bella.2.Asoom.3.Kinzi.

#11
Verbal Alchemy
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On: 11/18/2008 6:53:41 AM
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"People with interesting life don't have time to blog my friend :D"
its lives. bas bighad il nazar, i totally agree..

most of the popular virtual ppl have no life at all away from the screen.

#12
mab3oos
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On: 11/18/2008 7:26:57 AM
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I really don't know were to begin. This post is loaded with misconceptions and claims of knowing:
1. fake names. how do you suggest being anonymous without a "fake name." People blog about what goes on in their minds and feel more comfortable being undercover. Remember, most Arabs are so full of it when it comes to face to face interaction.

2. dictatorship bloggers do exist (Moey is an example. sorry, but it is the truth). But, to use that as a blanket covering all bloggers is a gross fallacy.

3. the "show-off bloggers" are the exception to the rule. I think it is more likely that bloggers ARE merely jotting down their thoughts on happenings all around.

4. bloggers are exhibitionists?! Man, I am tall, dark, and handsome. (Read my next post!) yet, you don't see photos of me all over my blog.

5. I partially agree on this one. Blogging is a good way to let steam out. Remember Angry Husband's shrink? S/he told him to continue blogging. What I don't agree on is the 90% figure. Where in hell do you get your numbers?

6. No no no. I hate your guts. I really do. I wish that it never stops raining in the N. West so you would develop some case of depression and be put in a straight jacket, which will stop you from blogging. But, your comments are always welcome; I seldom bash you (roasting excluded); and I've always "argued against ideas" not the people behind them. (this statement does not apply to Moey. he deletes my comments!)

7. I'll leave this to Rani Diranieh!

8. see #7.

9. that might apply to those "dear diary" bloggers and batir wardam (he chicken out and stopped writing politics. a big loss)
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you know, garaf ygrifkom. Arabs shouldn't be allowed to blog. and I am the exception to this rule.

#13
Qwaider
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On: 11/18/2008 7:40:43 AM
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there there ... feel better now?
How's your girlfriend doing? I hear they have tons of exams these days.
Please read the darn red disclosure :)

Krystal, You have got to be kidding me!
I hope Khalto Kinzi can come here, in person, and tell you that her real name is REALLY no Kinzi as for the rest. I respect their privacy, and will keep it to myself

#14
kinzi
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On: 11/18/2008 7:42:38 AM
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I don't know what happened, I am sorry for the culmination of frustration! I was just thinking although many of my favorites have stopped blogging, there are lots still out there, and there doesn't SEEM to be the animosity that flared up during growing pains.

I am SO in blog therapy mode right now. I can't talk for long periods, (even my off-line friends EMAIL me (LOL)have visitors, and my blog has been a huge source of encouragment and way to get all my words out.

I'm sure that all those negative traits have some rooting in my wicked heart, but for the most part, I am just enjoying people and hoping they are enjoying me.

I remember you were the one I even found out about Voices without Votes from, and even promoted other people toward them!.

I enjoy your blog. :)

#15
Qwaider
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On: 11/18/2008 7:46:27 AM
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Oh Khalto Khalto Kinzi, I SWEAR TO YOU ... NOTHING happened, Wallahi nothing happened.
This is just a few observations that I accomulated over the years, they accomulated exacly like the "disappointments" did.

I also don't mean anyone in particular, or that this applies to everyone. But I'm sure, we can ALL look around and see examples all around us.

I love and enjoy your blog too. It has a lot of hope in it and I hope you can continue with it, and help others see this hope too

#16
KJ
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On: 11/18/2008 11:09:02 AM
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Why do people take this post personally?! :D

Hani is my favorite blogger :D he3 he3

So, bash me on your wall :) I would love to know what you think ;)

But in the bigger picture though, the sphere is simply a reflection of what goes on in life - except maybe for the name part but then again some people don't use their real names in real life often!

#17
Simply Me
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On: 11/18/2008 11:42:56 AM
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I believe blogging is more simpler than that! It's simpler than analyzing and/ or setting rules..

It shouldn't come with a definition. And yes, each one is free to blog or not to blog.. to write about whatever he wants, whenever he wants. To be whatever..

And if someone minds that.. then he should not read.

#18
kinzi
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On: 11/18/2008 1:05:48 PM
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QWaider, oh, I am so glad nothing 'happened'. You don't need that kind of aggravation.

There is only one Qwaider Planet, my #1 aggregator. Thanks for being there!! You are also another window on American living, through Urdani eyes.

#19
Princess N
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On: 11/18/2008 2:31:49 PM
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ok you got me.. I am confessing.. Princess N is NOT my real name :)
I think since I only have time to read the blogs of the people that I already know I dont know what you mean.. I have a few links on my favorite list which I browse almost daily and I like each one of them :)

#20
hamede
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On: 11/18/2008 6:52:06 PM
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There is a very common belief and perception out there in the world that drives and plagues many people’s daily lives. That perception is taking other people’s actions or comments personally. Some people take only certain types of comments personally and are able to fend off other types. However, some people take nearly every comment personally and that can cause suffering.

I believe that a person’s confidence level definitely effects how a person will process and react to other people’s actions or comments. Having a lower sense of self-confidence can mean someone will take more comments personally.

#21
Hani Obaid
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On: 11/18/2008 10:00:53 PM
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If you disagree with something KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT! <----- you're joking ?

I am using my real name, and I wouldn't have it any other way. Plus I've been in touch with more long lost friends and relatives who found me through my blog than through facebook which is kinda designed for that.

I haven't even met any bloggers other than Wasim who gave up on blogging very quickly.

#22
Mariyah
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On: 11/18/2008 10:04:48 PM
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I guess you could say that blogging is like every other area of life. Some use it well, while others abuse it. The fact that people don't always use their real names is not really an issue. I think the quality of the blogs and the information they convey is far more important. There is, however, no specific purpose for blogging. Whether people use blogs to get a message out, improve their writing skills, or just have a place to vent is up to them. Blogging doesn't mean that you don't have a life, it just may be an addition to your daily routine. There are many scientists, politicians, etc. who use blogging as a means to impart important information. It is, disappointing that people are being abusive toward one another. Everyone should have the right to communicate freely without harassment, but its not a perfect world. I say, stick to the blogs that you enjoy and stay away from the rest that "disappoint" you.

#23
za3tar
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On: 11/18/2008 11:24:16 PM
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hahahahahaha ... wal wal wal ... what brought this on ? :-)

#24
Qwaider
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On: 11/18/2008 11:46:13 PM
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Alright, folks, for the 98239048230948th time, read the disclaimer :)

Now, I'm going to be selective in my replies to comments (I'm really sorry)

Hani, dude, if you want to remain friends with the blogger you disagree with, do that!

Za3tar,
Nothing happened, wallahi nothing happened

Mariyah
I don't think it's optional. I keep checking out everyone. The cool thing about disappointment is that you don't expect much after that from people :) So yeah.. I found a positive side to it :)

Hamede
You're right, people don't seem to be able to differentiate between their ego, and the comments people leave

Princess N, just be careful, since you might get disappointed

Kinzi
I'm honored with that testimony. Thank you

Simply Me
You know, everything has room to be analyzed. I guess that's how things are
When it's analyzed and broken into it's primary building blocks it then becomes simpler and certain ambiguity goes away

KJ
I have no idea! Everyone is reading this and thinking .. Ahhh, he must mean ME! I SWEAR I don't mean anyone in particular!
As for Hani, the poor dude is suffering from what I discribe above .. seebo fi 7alo

#25
Sabeur
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On: 11/19/2008 3:26:58 AM
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Don't forget
We like apple products also

All your points are true, which really sucks

#26
Batoul
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On: 11/19/2008 6:56:28 AM
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no no, I read the disclaimer. I just put a few of blogs I really like in mind and found it unfair to be claiming so. To a percentage I agree bas too harsh :D shaklo someone upset you... ele mo 3ajbo 3mreno :D This IS your little space.

#27
Hani Obaid
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On: 11/19/2008 7:10:39 AM
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Hani, dude, if you want to remain friends with the blogger you disagree with, do that! <----- Any 2 people will completely disagree on something. If they get upset when we disagree, then we won't make good friends anyway!

#28
wonders
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On: 11/19/2008 8:55:04 AM
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lol, good post wallahi :)
i agree with most of what you said, i think it is out there, but then again doesn't apply to everyone

and lol @ nizar i was going to say the same :) i know zin5a

some people (me) blog because they are bored at work :)

#29
Suha
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On: 11/19/2008 6:13:48 PM
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LMAO i've only been blogging for 3 months o rule 5 and 7 apply on me.. except that no one reads my blog so i am not an evil blogger YET bwahaha

and my favourite blog is robot4life haha, and if you say something disappointing about my blog I'll pull rule number 6 on you hahhaha jk jk

I started blogging becuase my sister and friends are so sick of hearing my thoughts and observations so i thought *hey I might as well let total strangers read what i have to say because i'm sure atleast one out of a hundred would find me brilliant* LOL aren't I a typical self-absorbed blogger eh!!

#30
Qwaider
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On: 11/19/2008 6:56:35 PM
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Sabeur
What does apple have to do with it?
Ahh, trust me my friend, I HATE IT when I'm negatively right! HATE IT

Batoul
For the 8345729483573492857239487539487534987th time ... no one got me upset .. there is NOTHING wrong. Please believe me
As for the rest of the supportive beautiful words, thank you so much Tooteh, they mean a lot to me

Hani
You're absolutely right my friend. If we manage to keep our ego and grudges out of it. Then we would ALL be great friends. And we won't get any more disappointments.

Wonders
You're never Zinkha. you're awesome ...

Suha
Oh come on, people do read your blog.
LOL ... oh come on .. I'm your good noodle don't put any spells on me =)
And yeah, you are brilliant, don't let anyone tell you otherwise!

#31
سوزان
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On: 11/19/2008 7:14:19 PM
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اولا ليش معصب
ثانيا المدونه ملك شخصي وبتصور كل انسان حر في كتاباته
الامر الثالث وهاد الاهم انك ما رح تقدر تصلح الكل
وكمان انت لما تكتب وبتكون سائل كم من واحد دخل مدونتك وعلق عليها انا يعني باجي المدونه تبعتك شبه يومي وما بترك تعليق مو معناه انه مدونتك فيها غلط
اما بالنسبه لاستخدام الاسماء المستعاره ففي الاغلب لانه الواحد فاقد الثقه بالناس يعني ما شاء الله في ناس شغلتها دور على مطبات للناس وتحاسبها كما لو انها ماشاء الله ملائكه يعني مش الكل بيملك جرأتك
وشيء مهم التدوين من وجهة نظري انا باحكي انه الواحد بيحكي عن افكار ومعاناة وحياة خاصه فيه هو شو ما كانت تكون وما باعتبر انه مو المهم انك تشتهر مدونتك بقدر ما تلاقي ناس تشاركك افكارك وآلامك او انها تناقشك لانك انت كشخص ما بتمثل الكل
بس بتمنى انك ما تقصدني !!

#32
Qwaider
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On: 11/19/2008 7:44:20 PM
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سوزان ... اكييييييييييد ما بقصدك.. يا جماعة ليش كل واحد بيقرأ هالمقال بيفكّر انّي قاصده شخصيا؟ و الله مو قاصد حد. لكن هاي شوية ملاحظات .. و مش عن الكل

#33
yemenia68
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On: 1/5/2009 5:08:30 AM
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Assalamu 3alaikum
Can someone please give me a few tips on how to start your own blog?
I started my blog last night and I haven't the slightest clue on how this works. I found a fellow blogger,(princess N)at this site and tried to comment on her blog site with no luck.
Someone pleeez help me out here.
Thanks :)

#34
yemenia68
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On: 1/6/2009 10:44:48 PM
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Assalamu 3alaikum,

Since we are all open-minded human beings here, I'll just speak my mind and I hope I don't offend anyone, that is truly not my intention.

It's funny how us arabs constantly talk about how we sit around while our fellow Palestinian Muslims are being slaughtered. Why is it that all we do is whine and nag all the time pointing fingers at everyone else?
I mean...come on, I cant even get anyone to help me with my blog. I've been to a couple of arab-american websites and nothing, zelch. Nobody is willing to help. I know for sure that if I went to any other website, I would get help but I chose to go to my people...my beloved Arab people, but yet nobody is willing to lend a hand here.
Lets see.....maybe if we can start with the simplest of things like being helpful to our fellow Arabs (like myself), then maybe, just MAYBE, we can go on to helping our fellow Muslims that are being slaughter in the Middle East.
As for you, qwaider, I dont even know where to begin..............you sound like this person I know who is constantly judging us Arab-Americans. What is your problem with Arab-Americans anyway....maybe you had a bad experience, huh? Come on........every race, country, culture and society has the negative and postive so, please try not to generalize when you speak your mind.
FYI.....I have noticed that a very huge percentage of Arabs, I'm not saying all Arabs, that were born and raised in Arab countries are very competitive in every aspect of life. I dont mean to be judgemental or anything but I have noticed that competitiveness is one of their major traits, whether its regarding work, school or society in general..........even the Arab rulers compete for the West's approval or acceptance. It's never about unity or co-existence to most of them.
There's nothing wrong with being competitive, to the contray, competition is what motivates us to succeed, but unfortunatly, some people take it to an extreme.

Now There !! I'm pretty sure now that I have spiced up my comment, maybe someone will respond. I dont want anyone to get the wrong impression about me, I'm really a very sweet grandma....hehehe

Salam everyone :)

#35
Qwaider
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On: 1/6/2009 11:02:35 PM
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Yemenia
I'm not going to comment much about what you think. That's your opinion and I respect it nonetheless.
But I would like to mention to you that I have tried to send you the blogging tips that you asked for earlier and for some reason SBCglobal thought I was sending some form of spam and blocked it. I had my admins contact their admins and everything cleared up. I didn't want to state the blogging tips here. I'll try again later.

Anyway, I don't hate Arab Americans, I AM an ARAB AMERICAN! I don't hate myself. Although, I've been a disappointed by many of them
The vast majority of the bloggers I read for are not Arab American. In fact, most Arab Americans are late additions to Blogging and many other interesting technologies that thrived first in back "home"

#36
yemenia68
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On: 1/7/2009 9:33:54 PM
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Asalamu 3alaikum,

bisara7ak ya Qwaider..............ana befhim 3alaik, regarding the Arab-American issue, bes 7abeh e3mil "drama" minshan tirido 3aly ya
3alam ....hehehe
Your probably thinking why I'm not using the arabic fonts, well, lets see.........I have no idea where each arabic letter is located on the keyboards so, you do the math. :)
I like what you've done on your blog, lots of creativity. I'm hoping one day God will bless me with some "creativity" to expand my humble little blog, not merely for the sake of blogging but maybe to help our Arab brothers and sisters in the middle east. Allah yewafikna bes.
I haven't had the chance to check out the other part of your email but thank you so much for your help. :)

#37
yemenia68
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On: 1/7/2009 10:15:35 PM
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Assalamu 3alaikum,

Yeah, its me again.
I was about to correct my typo mistake, but then I thought....hmmm, elkamal lilah, there is no such thing as perfection.
One thing I like about this blog is that we all understand each others mistakes, as I have come across a lot of mistakes, but no one seems to care. Back in the day, like in the early 90's, everyone had to retype their mistakes just so that nobody makes fun of them. Just felt like putting that out there so the next time I make a mistake, everyone understands.
You are all probably thinking that I talk about the weirdest things? Yeah........I get that a lot from my kids too.
Salam everyone :)

#38
Qwaider
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On: 1/7/2009 10:18:20 PM
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Yemenia
You can use Yamli and write in Arabic using english letters (just click on the purple Y that you see below the comment field)
Hope this helps

#39
yemenia68
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On: 1/8/2009 7:56:21 AM
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يا ابني اللة يخليك لنا!!!
ماتنسى أنا بسن امك و يحق لي اطلب منك مساعده في أي وقت...مش أنت الذي بتمدح عادتنا العربية و من عادتنا أن المسنين يحق لهم المساعده من الشباب.......hehehehe
So now that I got the hang of this, lets go back to the english. My goodness, when I say you have talent, thats an understatement.
Ok, let me see...........how about I pay you and you teach me all you know about blogging.
By the way, that "thing" that compliments the visitors, you know...the fantastic, the stupendous, the blah blah blah, how do you do that.
I know, I know they should make a book for me called "Blogging for Dummies"

مش بقولو الحليم تكفيه الاشاره؟؟ that doesn't apply to me....LOL
Thanks for your patience, you know old age makes us so hard to deal with.