Men suffer from it too!
My friend Ammar is starting the first steps towards getting married. He's been in a relationship with a wonderful lady and decided to tie the knot.
Piece of cake .. he's the man, right? .....
Apparently it's much harder than that, no wonder I'm so afraid of marriage!
So last night, I got this phone call from someone I don't know ... After few minutes I realized that the man was asking me about the conduct of my friend Ammar which is few years my senior! He's not only older, but I view him as my mentor and a much wiser person.
... Quite frankly ... I was in no way, shape or form qualified to give my opinion about him. I really don't know much. He's a nice guy, but that's about it! I don't know if he molests young children or if he helps old lady's cross the street on his way to work! I don't know if he chalks little kittens for pleasure or if he's a play boy.
So why did the bride's father call me!!?
I have enough issues realizing my own existence and making it conform with my super ego to look at someone else and attest to something I didn't know that may or may not be the end of his relationship with the lady he wants!
All of these thoughts raced in my mind as I told the guy: "If I had a sister or a daughter, I would marry her off to him"
I'm not sure what he was trying to accomplish, but I guess, he had good intentions. Seemed like a nice fellow though.
This whole marriage thing in the Arab communities is just so taxing for both the bride and the groom. The social shackles keep all our dreams grounded. Women don't have it easy either....
Anyway, who knows when I will be forced to enter the cage and get clueless witnesses to attest my chastity and perhaps .. sanity!