Sexually frustrated diseases

Of all ethnicities I come face to face in my daily life. One sticks out as the most frustrated. As you might have guessed, yes it was Arabs. I would like to leave generalizations aside and just stick to the observations I've seen.

Old, young, male, female, religious, non-religious, veiled, non-veiled, married or single as I've seen Arabs are in generally the most frustrated. The weird thing is that Arabs historically and traditionally are usually the ones who boast virtue and abstinence. what puzzles me more is how frustrated and hypocritical people seem to be.

We all know that in the middle east, women are expected to be virgins when marrying. A trend that has continued to decline as middle eastern countries. Used to be something of a horror tale told about how someone took advantage of some girl and later on refused to stick to his promises and the poor lady was casted away with shame and brought shame to her whole family. She would probably be killed by her family. Another trend that I've seen declining thank god for many reasons.

First of these reasons is that the punishment of adultery for non-married males or females alike is not death. Yes there is reprimandment but not that severe. And I'm only talking Islamically here and not traditionally. While the girl would lie in a pool of blood the male accomplice would usually move on unscratched.

Secondly most of these incidents would usually not happen between consenting adults but rather an adult male predator and a juvenile female. Where the female is totally taken advantage of.

One of the facts to consider that people in their youth rage with excess amounts of hormones. Males and females and would seek avenues to vent these excess chemicals in many ways. One of these might be a full contact sexual intercourse with a lover, a friend, a neighbor etc.

As humans age, their needs shift from pure passionate to more trimmed and toned psychological. You'll find many middle eastern women craving attention and interest. In a society that views a 23 year old unmarried woman as a pathetic spinster. Which is not only unfair but even worse fuels worse psychological results that if left unchecked would result in disasters.

On the other hand, Males are left deobligated with little pressure from families and society sometimes till they're in their mid thirties.

What I've been noticing with the advent of new, better and faster communications mediums that some walls are being torn down and some middle eastern women are being more forward about their understandable needs. In the absence or shortage of suitable suitors and the need for the other gender's courtship, they're going out of their ways to experience avenues that they think might hold the key for their deliverance from the harsh cast they had to endure.

Often times I would find such women to be kind of forward with their demands while others hide behind facades of self righteousness while still raging with the same set of factors that causes many to be ultra discrete about them. Leading at times to some extreme versions of frustration combined with the inability to read the male person in front of them and would cause them not to be able to clearly decide the other party's intentions. If she comes forward he might be a conservative but if she held back he might lose interest because this is what he's seeking

The problem in males is even worse. While in their twenties and early thirties the feelings of rejection would probably not even cross their mind. Why would they when there is this huge ocean of available and willing young and fantastic ladies.

Once men cross a specific threshold in their lives these things start to accumulate in a way that causes them to also feel the frustration of the women. The 18 year olds don't find them attractive anymore and their ability to win a woman's interest diminishes day by day causing them to become desperate. To the point that they might do some really idiotic things to prove to themselves how worthy they still are. This leads their frustration to escalate in a way that might set in motion actions that they themselves might find unethical. which leads them to attempting to lure or manipulate minors.

The interesting part is that as I've seen being married may or may not curb these tendencies. It does tone it down a bit, but not by much. And we end up with a very dangerous sexually crazed bunch that would do anything and go to any length to get to their needs.

A while ago there was a special on Dateline NBC called "To catch a predator" where they've staged a sting operation to capture sexual predators. Planting a decoy actress to impose as a 13 or a 14 year old girl/boy. The results were shocking. Hundreds of arrests for men that range in ages, but the majority was over 35. And this is in the west where such men can seek out a local bar, buy a lady couple of drinks and wake up happy

These frustrations come in so many different shapes and sizes. The most alarming ones are of married men and women who seek extra marital affairs. Usually due to their own failure in their own marriages. Instead of reflecting on the reasons they find a easier refuge outside and en up in the weirdest of situations.

Don't be surprised to know that this is not limited to people living in the west but everywhere and growing with alarming numbers in the Arab world. I remember hearing an interesting story about the hijacked Kuwait Airways plane Al Jabriyah. The story talks about a man who told his wife that he's going to Saudi Arabia for Umrah, while he was on his way to Bangkok. Imagine her surprise when his name was announced as one of the kidnapped.

All of this leads me to another point. Online affairs. Where people are meeting friendships arise some are honorable but others may prove to be adulterous. Men and women talking in cyberspace with some intentions. Feeling that anything that happens in cyberspace is virtual, not real they indulge in activities that might later on prove to be devastating. The guy would pretend to be Mr Perfect while she goes in and becomes her wildest fantasy. Coupled with the frustration I talked about earlier and the end result is a highly explosive mix.

If we're talking about single consenting adults the result might be fine. But once we start finding married people seeking attention they can't find at home. Or a predatory relationship where one party is vastly more privileged due to age or experience.  We start seeing these troubling trends. People cheating on their spouses, young people being taken advantage of and enticed into doing many things to the pleasure of their predators. Which can potentially end up in disasters like kidnap, rape, extortion and even murder.

I personally think it's time for our societies to let go of the taboos and accept things as they truly are. Human needs that seek to be vented. Possibly even find safe avenues to assist people who are looking to get to what their looking for while leaving innocent young kids alone to give them a chance to grow and develop their own adult life

This subject is not directed to ANYONE, please don't assume I mean you. I know that due to the sensitivity of the topic I would probably not have anything comment on it on the fear that they would give the impression that they are from one group or another. But I assure you. This doesn't mean you. These are my observations of a phenomenon I'm calling "Sexually frustrated disease"

I see it everyday. Middle aged men hunting down little girls with flattery and wit. The whole idea is repulsive to me, but that's only me. And this is one form of this weird frustration that converting the online experience to navigating a minefield.

We all have urges and needs. To deny our impulses is to deny the very thing that makes us human. I'm not calling for everyone to just wear chastity belts for life. All I'm advising everyone is to practice best judgement when make such decisions. Find someone suitable and leave the kids alone. If you're already married. No matter how hard it is going, trust me, it will be way worse if you indulge in a regretful relations.

Online is not cyber, and virtual. It would be if you're talking to PC, but you're talking to a living, breathing, thinking human on the other side, using a new medium to communicate doesn't negate their humanity. So spare yourself, and your loved ones alot of heartache ... and don't fall for it