Why do they revert!?

I usually don't mind people being themselves. It's cool if people feel comfortable in their own skin. That's great!

But these people are not in their own skin, nevertheless, it's great for them to feel liberated from the confines of a strict culture they have been suffering from all their lives.

I'm not passing judgement or anything, in fact, I think the best thing that ever happened to these people was their short lived liberty..

I say short lived because, few years and few gray hairs later, they start a cruel and ugly process of reverting back to distorted edition of their earlier selves. In the image of their middle aged parents.

It's like a butterfly going back to a worm shaped creature, it's ugly and you really don't want to be there when it happens. The first to go are liberties of OTHERS, tolerance becomes a useless accessory and everyone is GUILTY of what these guys used to practice and warship on a daily bases.

It's time to find a wife, and settle in for them. It's the time to find that pure 18 year old peasant virgin that is going to be the proof of achievement for these folks. Proof that they are living well. Proof to all that they have sampled all facets of knowledge and wisdom and they're culimating their achievement with another title below their belt!

They've reverted to an ugly version of their own parents. They're suspicious of everyone, and everything. After seeing more action than a ladies' room toilet seat, now they are preaching virtue and projecting all their insecurities and distrust onto others.

Now I have complete understanding and sympathy to the parents who refuse to marry their daughters off to guys who have been living away... They can already foresee the ugliness of the relationship. Although, they can't generalize over everyone, many do fall down that hole and many suffer because of them

The behaviors of these guys remind me of an Arabic saying; "Two you can shouldn't believe, A young man who has been living away, and an old man who has outlived his generation" (اثنين ما بيتصدّقوا شاب اتغرّب و ختيار ماتت اجياله). (I know there is a third about divorced woman talking about her ex, but I'm not in the mood to raise a hell storm over this)

The reversion is so dramatic that it puzzles me at times. They even revert to the old crappy way of speech, or even worse. After learning to get refined and speak properly. They go back to the older exhibition of manhood through the vulgar and heavy to the ears words.

Why would someone choose to go back to an older, less representative version of themselves? It beats me! But one thing I'm certain of as people mature, almost everyone reverts. Where they end up ... is completely up to them