Behind every hater, a sick past

I'm going to start with an apology for the many people who might get offended by this. I don't mean it personally to any one of them. And I'm sure many are going to say all of this sounds too Freudian, but he's the father of all modern psychology so there's no escaping him

Many of the "Haters" have their roots back during childhood. When some event caused them some severe emotions that left them bitter for the rest of their life. This in effect caused them to focus their inexplicable hate towards some segment of people.

For example, someone who was picked-on, beaten and bullied by a fat kid at school. My end up hating fat people because they represent that bully to him. He might end up hating blond people because that bully represented blonds to him. Or might end up hating any other specific about that person. Once the person is subject to that stimulate, he finds himself retrieving these suppressed hate thoughts. These have been associated in his brains at an early age

Although I gave a simple example, there are many that might be more relevant. Specifically to the issues of women who hate men in a completely illogical way. It's not because "men are pigs" or "my boyfriend dumped me" or "that guy used me". Most of these emotions have already developed by the time the lady is old enough to have these feelings.

The original association might have been an abusive father, or older brother. Or possibly some other male relative that caused some sort of psychological disturbance to the child at an early age. Making her subconscious associate men with these "evil" men!

A recent incident that passed by me was a woman who hates the smell of her husband. After digging so much in her past. Turns out, she was forcibly abused by her own father, and she associated his smell, with the disgust that she felt afterwards. Making her uneasy even when she was older, in her home, with her own husband.

But this association doesn't necessarily have to be negative. In fact, most of our associations are positive. (The smell of cookies makes us salivate, the smell of yummy food reminds us of warm family dinners...)

So if you find yourself loving something with absolutely no reason. Or hating something or someone with absolutely no reason. Reflect on your own past.

This doesn't mean that everyone had some sort of a sick childhood or necessarily had weird fantasies! What it means is that we need to REALLY take care of our children and make sure they're not going through traumatic events that will often leave them scarred for life.