The little love switch

It all comes down to a little love switch. The switch that exists inside our hearts. Our conscious. We can't switch it on or off on our while someone else can say couple of words and cause the switch to flip

Think of it this way. we have a switch for every single person we know. Every time we meet someone we add a new switch for them. We collect all we know about them, first impressions, reputation, what we read, what we hear ... everything. And we construct a virtual switch inside our hearts

If this switch is on. We automatically accept everything we get from that person. Words have more weight, arguments are automatically accepted, and the little part of our minds that causes us to be skeptic. While the minute that switch is off. We just can't accept anything from that person. Everything no matter how complementary or nice, will be taken with a lot of skepticism. Even valid arguments are not only dissected and examined closely, they are always assumed wrong and rejected.

Our behavior based on this emotional love switch becomes very predictable. If it's on, it's harder to disagree with the person, harder to distrust them. Our natural tendency is to agree and most importantly accept the person. The opposite is also true. If the switch is off, it is a challenge to listen to, or accept the person. Them being right or wrong is irrelevant.

Next time you accept someone unconditionally, or give someone else hard time for no reason. Remember to check the setting on that switch, and try to be fairer.

Here's what would help, forget the person, and focus on the issue. That would help, although it's not a solution since we really can't simply switch that switch on or off at will.

Next time you hear about a wife or a husband who was so much in love with their better half and suddenly they just can't take it anymore, just think about that switch, and see why did it flip

There are many reasons for flipping the switch. Catching someone cheating, conflict, extreme abuse and many other emotional shocks. But also subtle changes like finding someone else, doesn't have to be a lover. A child might substitute the emotional engagement of a person. A hobby, a job, many other things.

Sad thing about this switch is that once it switched on or off. It becomes very difficult to switch it back again.

If you think about it some more, you see you actually have this love switch for just about everything you encounter in your life, your job, your favorite game, movie, pet, hobby, car.. etc. We seem to have this switch for everything. If it's on, no matter how nasty and pain it causes us. We accept it. We love it and enjoy it...

Amazing, the human mind, the human heart, the way we interpret things and justify what we don't like. Just because that little switch is on.