Gender attraction

If we look closely at the sexual attraction of both genders we notice a very odd thing. Males are turned off by a woman who is -with- another man. While women are turned on by a man who is -with- another woman!

I know there are many exceptions to this observation. But I've seen this more than I can disregard it.

Some consider it jealousy, some consider it competitiveness, but one thing is certain. It's there and it's very observable. I've noticed this more in the eastern cultures but this doesn't mean I have not seen it in the west.

It's very odd to see that women tend to be attracted more to men who are engaged, involved or married. Than the abundant available men. Somehow the one who's in a relationship seems to be more attractive.

"He's with her, there must be something good about him". This is how many women think. Sometimes purely out of jealousy. While for guys the notion that "She's with him" is enough to turn most men off. (Don't believe what you see in the movies about how Mr#2 was attracted to the lady who was out with the jerk)

I might be completely hallucinating here, (that coffee I had this morning sure tasted funny) but this observation kept coming back to me, day after day. It's just forcefully presenting it self. Women are attracted to men who are with other women!

This probably explains why most men don't shy from furnishing all their previous affairs on their resume the minute the apply to the courtship of a lady. Alternatively, most women discovered through their amazing intuition that they shouldn't be mentioning much about their history since it is a turn off.

Many would say this is one of the social double standards, to be completely frank, I'm a big proponent of double standards here. You just can't treat men and women the same way. It just doesn't work like that. Each has it's own insecurities and sensitivities and it's just not possible to produce one-size-fits-all social treatment.

Similarly, women are attracted more to guys who are not attracted to them. I'm not sure the same is true about men. But trust me, that doesn't stop a guy from following a chick back home :)