Divorce is in the Air
- By: Qwaider
- On:Friday, January 04, 2008 3:18:51 AM
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Just like love and marriage has seasons, it appears to me that divorce is in the air these days. I can count at least 5 people who either recently got divorced, or on their way to get one.
Sadly, Divorce has become one of the realities of this day and age. People are no longer satisfied with what they have. Some rightfully, others shouldn't complain but they do anyway!
Strange enough, one of the words being used so much in spam these days is Divorce! Where spammers are promoting their antidepressants and legal advice through comment spam. If that means anything it means that there's a huge market for divorce "products" just like those breast enlargement pills and the other pills!
I said before that I'm really afraid of marriage. It's not an easy thing to do. If anything it's VERY difficult and requires a huge amount of discipline and commitment. In fact, it's the embodiment of commitment more than anything else I know.
Many people apparently rush into marriages, aided only by love, and flesh needs. The results are quite catastrophic. Few months (sometimes days) later, they discover that there is more to a marriage than just satisfying the needs of the flesh! There is more to marriage than satisfying the requirements of the society. There is more to a marriage than a pretty party, with cake and a wedding dress!
I for one have done a quick calculation and found that there are so many obstacles to consider before even attempting marriage. Take for example the financial situation. My simple calculations tolled over $90,000 as the expenses of only the first year of marriage taking into account the wedding ceremony and other expenses. Mind you I'm taking the whole thing in a very conservative sum. People may choose to be more extravagant where those 90k will hardly cover the expenses of the wedding singer alone! While some will manage to reduce their cost. But whatever it is, the expenses are so high that someone moving from single-hood to marriage will likely be overwhelmed with the expenses.
So why the heck are people sacrificing the amazing freedom of single-hood to be tied down by chores, duties, bills and oh that snoring bastard sleeping next to them? What is it that this institution is providing that people are not getting outside of it? And in much better quality and quantity?
I think it's pretty obvious that this millenium is going to usher the sunset of marriage, as an institution. It will become more obvious in the future that this union of man and wife is not functioning as it's supposed to. Family is probably going to be more and more dissimilar bunch of people where the parents have been in couple of different failed marriage in the past, and the kids are likely not really biological brothers.
If only someone can explain to me WHAT IS IT that makes them so happily married!
Heh! "Happily married" is the cliche of the 20th century, chances are, "Happily Single" is going to be the cliche of the 21st century.
Heh! Happily Married! What a joke!
I haven't seen ANYONE that is REALLY REALLY REALLY happily married! Or maybe those happily married couples just happen to vanish of the face of the planet. Because, there isn't anything they need from the rest of the world. They are truly happily married!
But, every "Happily married" couple I've seen. Seem to provide that storefront for people... Deep inside... they know it's just a show! An Image. The makeup they wear on their way to work!
Memories....
No one is 'happily 3x married' as life just doesn't provide that level of good fortune no matter what the marital status.
I definitely think having to pay out 90K JD for the first year of marriage is a set-up for disaster. It's like a guy has to pay for her, how can she live up to that kind of monetary value?
Don't give up. She's out there. :)
التعميم بانه لايوجد زواج ناجح او سعادة زوجية خطا لا يجوز ان يقع به انسان واع مثلك...
على كل حال اللي عقلو براسو بعرف خلاصو...
انت كيف حالك؟الشاورما بعمان صاير طعمها زي النعل..
سلام.
I am "happly single" doing what ever I want, traveling whenever I need it.. staying home in my pjs watching TV all day long when I feel like doing nothing, going out with my friends almost every day... why would I change all that and bring to myself someone who will be sharing my decisions, changing why schedules, nagging about things, and maybe even fighting with?
and the scariest thing when people say "al zawaj sahr la budda minho"
What the hell??!!!
That is not to say I think that you should run out and get a divorce at the first sign of trouble. I tried to do that countless times but if it weren't for my husband's willingness to put in the time and effort to fix what I considered unfixable problems, I would be missing out on a great marriage now.
There is no one out there who has a "perfect marriage", just as there is no single person out there who has a "pefect single life". There are good days and there are bad days. The only hope is that the good days outnumber the bad days (hopefully by A LOT).. and that at the end of the day, you have someone who is your best friend, your companion, someone who has got your back and (as kinzi said!) will take care of you and be there for you no matter what.
Good luck Q, there is someone out there for you, but stop looking for perfection because no one is perfect ;)
oh and happy 2008!
Once we got married, we have benefited by having given birth to three children. Also a lot of money has came our way. We both had very good intentions.
I wonder if some one online is