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What exactly is Hijab to you?

By: Qwaider

On:Thursday, December 20, 2007 5:50:40 PM
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I'm not Anti-Hijab or Anti-Hijabi or anything. But I really find it weird that some ladies are so keen on wearing it, while they live up to nothing that it represents. For example, a Hijabi lady shouldn't be using profanity in her language. Another example would be that the hijabi lady shouldn't be making out in the back seats of cars, in public. Oh did I mention they made sure the headscarf stays in place

I'm all for people doing whatever the hell they want to do and wear whatever they want to wear. But it confuses me to see some people wearing something the that represents completely the opposite of their actions.

It's like seeing a bride dressed as a nun it just doesn't work like that. Or maybe it does, I don't know, it's just unusual. That's all

Although it's none of my business, but I do feel kind of upset when I see a girl, all dressed up in what's supposed to be humbling dress, only to find her holding hands with a guy, or making out in the back of the store. Or whatever.

I guess many of the women wearing Hijab forgot or never knew the kind of pride associated with it. The whole reason for it to exist in the first place.

That's another reason why no woman should ever be forced into wearing the hijab!

Hijab has become more of a social trend, devoid of all it's meanings and all it represents. So the question here is, what is Hijab to you?

What a shame.

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#1
Crystal
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On: 12/20/2007 7:25:10 PM

I was once getting my children from school in Korea and witnessed in broad daylight,in a military community that't full of children, a couple making out like crazy in the front seat of the car,the woman was not wearing a Hijab,but I will never forget the vision that I saw that bright sunny,early afternoon(and I'm just thankful the children wer not out of school,yet,that afternoon,as I took "the abuse")and I hope I will never see it again,let a alone innocent little children.

Kissing is fine for a couple when parked in a car in public view,but going at "it" hot and heavy is another thing,it, to me is in a way an "abuse",as people are forced to witness the act and it will be edged on their mind forever.

#2
mimi
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On: 12/20/2007 7:26:27 PM

u should be upset, because women like that send wrong messages about ur beliefs, u can blame them if they choose to wear it, but some girls wear it because their families obliged them to, as u said, no woman should be forced to wear Hijab, but u know how much freedom girls get in Jordan, don't you ?!

#3
chikapappi
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On: 12/20/2007 9:43:40 PM

well it doesn't matter if one is met7ajba or not, some things a girl doesn't do o Bas! and hejab doesn't stop a girl from living a normal life

#4
nido
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On: 12/21/2007 4:47:12 AM

"only to find her holding hands with a guy", like any guy?! what if he was her husband or fiance?! Is it wrong when a guy holds his hijabi wife's hand?

#5
Qwaider
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On: 12/21/2007 7:42:11 AM

Do you think I would mind if it was a husband or a brother? But even if it was a husband or a brother, they shouldn't be making out in public. Especially for a hijabi lady.
Actually, if it was a husband, he would be too protective to display such things in public

#6
masalha1
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On: 12/21/2007 8:19:00 AM

whether or not a girl wears a hijab should not be a measure of behaving in public, people making out in cars in view of public don't give a damn about Hijab or the public at that moment, its their hormones taking over their brains, I guess thats being human, and Hijab has nothing to do with it, if a girl is that type, wearing a hijab is just a way of deception and most likely she wears it because she is forced to OR she wants to deceive people.

#7
Mariam Ayyash
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On: 12/21/2007 12:09:19 PM

i agree with most of what have been said, adding pressure on hijabi girls is just wrong, u cant say hijabi girls cant do this or that, its girls in general, its people in general that are not supposed to act in a specific way, adding pressure to the hijabi girls is what got mohajjabat in europe in trouble in the first place

#8
طفيلي( ahmad)
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On: 12/21/2007 2:17:26 PM

Hijab is very important for me. in the last year ,i convinced my niece to wear it because she did not wear it and was only one in the family. I would not get married to a woman who does not ware hijab. But that is only reason for marrying from a Hijab girl. Allah asks women to wear Hijab for a good purpose for male and female. if it is misused by other bad girls, we need to be careful and not jude them by other mistakes.

#9
PSG
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On: 12/21/2007 11:59:58 PM

i love what has been said in comments about certain behavior expectations from girls, whether they wear hijab or not, i should add that a certain behavior is expected from the guys as well.
wrong things stay wrong, but maybe when a girl wears hijab there's a certain level of decency is expected, that's why it looks really bad when a girl who wears hijab does something inappropriate.

#10
eshda3wa
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On: 12/22/2007 12:07:20 AM

what is wrong or sinful applies to everyone
not just a girl wearing a hijab

but you are right
it seems that people use the hijab to make a fashion statement
not modesty or obedience to god almighty

#11
princessN
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On: 12/22/2007 6:23:00 PM

I once attended a wedding of a m7ajabeh bride.. i went with my family and we were shocked.. the bride was without her 7ijab.. add to that her dress was so revealing it was disgusting.. my dad could not look at her, he kept looking at the floor.. and the funny thing when we went the next day to lunch we saw her there with her 7ijab on!!!

I remember once reading and article about an american who converted to Islam in the states saying that if he came to the Muslim countries before he converted he wouldnt have done it!!

Its sad..

#12
spirit
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On: 12/23/2007 9:05:40 AM

this behavior is so bad even for hijab or nonhijab girls ... 7atta holding hands between married people in public 3eab ... bedko et7ebo ba3ad 7ebo fy elbeat mo barra ...

#13
Peachy Keen
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On: 3/5/2009 5:34:14 PM
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That is the question I have so it
is wrong for husband and wife to
hold hands in public?
And about the wedding I have been
to a wedding where the mother forced
her daughter to go without the
Hijab on her wedding day.

I'm curious because I myself have seen HIJAB become a fashion statement, the girls that I know most of them wear it because they were forced. I never thought in my life that someone would be forced to wear it when I turned 14 I started wearing it, I kept thinking to myself let me just try if I don't like it I will take it off. I thank Allah(swt) for such a sweet mother who gave me the choice to wear it. I have been wearing Hijab ever since then. Someone please answer my question. Thank you!

#14
Qwaider
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On: 3/5/2009 7:35:32 PM
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There's nothing wrong with people holding hands in public. It's completely OK! I've seen pilgrims in Mecca where the woman is holding her husband's hand. If it's fine there, it's fine everywhere

#15
anonymus
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On: 6/10/2009 10:49:14 PM
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started wearing hijab when i was ten... mom was too excited abt it but allowed me.... got stronger n stronger abt... but then i got in medicine.... ppl made fun... said the things that this article has hinted.... i cried a lot being ridiculed like that.... then a friend said something... she said that this is what her father adviced her "if a black spot comes on an already black cloth, u cant see it... but if it comes on a white one, everyone will let u know it is there!!"

think abt it plz.... anything that u say, should it discourage even a single woman from following a compulsary act, u will be held accountacble for it on the day of judgement... can u bear that burden when even as small a burden as a grain of rice will be heavy to bear...if u cant say smething supporative hold ur silence.... it is better for u

#16
Qwaider
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On: 6/10/2009 10:58:03 PM
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Anonymous, I'm not sure you really understood me here. I'm NOT against Hijab, and Im not saying don't wear it. I'm calling for people to do it properly, not as a fashion statement (or whatever it is that people wear hijab for) It should be an act that is pure for the sake of God, nothing less.

#17
anonymus
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On: 6/10/2009 11:07:00 PM
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brother... have u tried wearing it... ahve u gone down the street listening to ppl like u who lecture us abt being pious but dont stand with us when we DO take the high road.... u cannot judge when u havent walked in those shoes... i have... to be riddiculed by a society supposedly muslim but under complete control of the western media.....even if the act is half-hearted maybe it will take root n strengthen over years... that is why to judge ppl's intent is for allah alone n not for man....try writing a article supporting those that r trying sooo hard to make it when so many ppl r pulling us down

#18
Qwaider
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On: 6/10/2009 11:59:08 PM
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I really sympathize with your experience and wish I had a magic wand to help the whole society understand the error of their ways.
But Sadly, don't and can't. What I can do is support women who are NOT really convinced of such a practice. Maybe all they need is a little understanding from everyone.
I am a firm believer that people shouldn't do things they're not convinced of. There are certain things that can't be "half done". People either do it, or not waste their time on them.
I'm not talking about people who are doing this to progressively get to that stage, but about people who make it a point to specifically follow the improper way
There are certain labels that represent something. The veil or Hijab is representative of Muslim women. Misbehaving while wearing it is not only an insult to Hijab and Islam but also to every Muslim woman. That's why it's important in my humble opinion for women wearing hijab to understand how much is lying on their shoulders as representatives of all of us

#19
Peachy Keen
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On: 6/14/2009 7:55:00 PM
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Brother, Qwaider

Thank you for you help there, and Miss Anonymous. ---

I'm sorry to hear that you went through such a honorable time in your life. But talking with anger doesn't help. I myself have gone through things as well after 9/11 I wont say what because I am not here to compete with you. You have gone through a troubled times is like a test for a person, to keep your head high and let not one word make your turn your heart into grew. Your blood flows with love for Allah(swt) and with grace with the Hijab. God forbid you should go through that ever again in your life. You stand up for your believe and rights. Not to fight, but to educate the people who are not educated in Islam. If they still do not understand and are still a bother, that means they are not true people. They don't even stand for themselves like you do. Your a diamond around by a rocks only YOU know your TRUE value.

#20
anonymus
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On: 6/15/2009 9:19:31 PM
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hey peachy keen....jazakallah for the comments... nah,i am not angry... just sad....i am only concernd that articles that critisize hijab (even though the intent may be good) end up arming those against hijab (muslim n non-muslim), n v r the ones left with our backs to the wall ..... like in any matter, there r black sheeps in every flock.... unfortunaely in hijab, more often the limelight is for the black sheeps....n alhamdullilah i never faced a situation beyond my strengths.... may it remain so, ameen :D

#21
Pearl
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On: 6/15/2009 9:29:37 PM
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i have seen people wear hijab as a fashion statement but then they started wearing it for Allah alone. and i've also seen pple start for the deen but then left bcoz of the pressures of life.. i just think that we should not judge a persons intentions at one point of time... some take it by leaps and bounds and some take baby step . May Allah strenghten us all.

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