What kind of a sexist are you?

I keep hearing the same arguments from both sides of the isle. Women attacking men and accusing them of oppression, abuse, sexual exploitation. While men are mostly silent with very few exceptions, but they respond back sometimes with very sexist remarks and arguments that undermine a whole gender, half the society.

That's one thing, however there's a huge difference between the mental orientation and the real-life-actual and physical application of these ideas. Where the argument becomes completely reversed and men -in practice- become more of the aggressors. Mostly happening behind closed doors.

The mentality of women in Jordan for example has been reshaped to accept abuse as a fact of life, a normal part of life. Beatings, emotional and verbal abuse, and even asymmetrical responses to honor crimes appear to be the least of their worries. But if you look at publications, you will notice a trend that is completely against that. It's not hypocrisy, it's the social schizophrenia that we suffer from. The schizophrenia that mandates that we must believe something that never reflects anything tangible in real life!

Most of the female bloggeretts I read have a specific position towards men. They -blindly accuse everyone of committing the same level of oppression. Which leads me to passionately believe that reverse sexism is alive and well in the Arab and related worlds.

Just ask your self one thing. If you hear about an issue between a Man and a Woman. Who do you blame FIRST? If you answer this question sincerely, you will know internally who you're siding with when not enough evidence is around!

It doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman. It doesn't matter if you sympathise with women issues or not. What matters is the way your brain connects the dots. The way your brain extrapolates when facing ambiguity.

Saying the above keeps everyone honest. If not towards the world, it would be towards their own self. Test your self. Learn how your brain functions and then make a decision that YOU WILL NOT judge based on your natural tendency to be sexist. You natural tendency to side with men or women. This will most certainly help.

At the end of the day, we're ALL sexist, either by affiliation, affinity, association or psychology. We might act differently at different stages of our lives and our moods, circumstances. But knowing what our basic bias is will help us negate this effect. Consider it like fine-tuning the moral balance. If you're left shifted, then you might want to move your zero point off center a bit.

Think of this story, and based on your answer you will know your bias

"A loving husband goes back home. Enters the house and start shouting at his wife"

A final note here, Women are as guilty of sexism as men are. Sometimes towards their own gender