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All for the job!

By: Qwaider

On:Wednesday, November 28, 2007 10:02:56 PM
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What takes priority in your life? Work or family?

For single folks like me, that's really easy to answer, but for others. It's just not that simple!

Two stories made me think deeply about this.

A lady gave birth few months back to her son. She already working, and the baby is being 'dumped' at a daycare every day while the mommy gets the money.

The second story is about a colleague at work. His wife threatened him with divorce three times (not just verbal threats but actually taking action to get the divorce and then she backed out), and once she ran away to meet some Internet dude she met online all the way in Florida! But she came back! And now they're on good terms again

In both cases work seems to be the reason why these people are having all this unrest at home! I look at it and think, is it worth it?

A baby is snatched away from his mother who pays around $800 a week to have someone else take care of her son. I think about it. So after paying the daycare, the taxes, expenses etc etc .. Is it even worth it to work?

And for the guy, spending long hours, and neglecting the wife while she fills up her needs from polluted online sources. Were those extra hours a day necessary? Do they make a difference?

If you talk to any one of the top executives of fortune 500 companies, they will all tell you that family should come first, and if they had to do it again, they would spend more time with the family.

Just keep that in mind!

It's ironic that in the west they finally figured out the greatest source of joy and fulfillment in a person's life. While the past 5 decades have seen the decay and dissolution of the classic family concept.

But, it's coming back!

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#1
chikapappi
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On: 11/28/2007 11:17:08 PM

man it's too complicated! life now forces women to go out to get ends meat & it's never easy bas to me, always came first till recently when I decide to .... off this job & the stress that it generates!

#2
أنونيموس
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On: 11/29/2007 12:13:18 AM

Is it really coming back? More people are joining the workforce today than ever before, be it male or female.
In the MidEast it's probably more out of necessity than anything else. Here people overwhelm themselves with things they can't afford, end up having to spend a lifetime paying for that stuff or paying to maintain it. You end up losing the best years of your life to work.
Middle ground is easier said than done. Catching up with today's "necessities" is hard and you'll often tend to neglect the other better things in your life in that pursuit.

#3
sam
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On: 11/29/2007 12:25:34 AM

Q when u do the math working while leaving your baby at daycare is not worth it...money wise and otherwise....the stress, the strain it puts on the family....it is so not worth it...i tried it for 2months in between babies...and that is when i got my firt gray hair!:'(

well your colleague is an idiot if he is letting work do this to his marriage...hubby did that for a while...he was starting off in his career and he felt it was too late..he was already 33 when he got his firt engineering job so he had to put an extra affort to advance faster...and maybe it was worth it because now he where he is supposed to be had he started working in his 20's like everyone else..and maybe it was worth it since it was a short term sacrafice for a long term success....but i did not feel neglected and had to the need to find someone else...even when he was working long hours he still made a point to make time for me...:)

#4
Mariam Ayyash
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On: 11/29/2007 3:18:54 AM

yea, im single, i always had friends first :)

#5
masalha1
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On: 11/29/2007 7:13:59 AM

Its a matter of balance, one will effect the other, you spend too much time at work you will tend to loose the wife or husband, and vice versa, Sam is right, if you are starting a new career and trying to move up in the corporate ladder, then you have to put in those extra long hours, and hope your wife will be understanding and patient.
However, its very difficult to maintain that balance for working women, most husbands are not so understanding nor patients, and between her career and her husband and children it puts so much stress on her and the family most likely you'll end up with a dysfunctional family.
I'm not against working women but raising a family and taking care of the children and home has to be the most NOBIL and difficult job on earth, and unless you have to work out of necessity, MOMs should be MOMs because they are the pillars of the families, even though this is politically incorrect, and unfeasable for single MOMs, but the truth is, its more difficult for working women to keep that balance.

#6
Tamara
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On: 11/29/2007 9:38:16 AM

You know Q- When I was single work came first, I worked so hard and such long hours to get where I'm, as I got engaged then married things changed, there was someone who had the right to get some time from, and as you rationalize things it sounds very silly that someone would put work over family, and it is but the transaction is not easy and the decision is not easy at all, it took me a while to reprioritize things in my life

#7
psg
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On: 11/30/2007 3:05:05 PM

it won't come back ! people work to get money for their families, and the more they work the more they think they're helping their families.

#8
tinkerbella
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On: 12/2/2007 9:13:11 AM

family should ALWAYS come first! be it husband, wife, parents, kids, whatever....work should be what you to do to provide for your fmaily and get some sort of self-satisfaction and purpose in life.
but it should never ever take up so much of your time that your significant other is being neglected and has to look somewhere else for someone to pay attnetion to them!
and as for the kids...its quite simple. dont have them if you want to focus on your career. n if u do have them, then both parents should be willing to cut back on work hours so they can balance the child-rearing with the parenting!