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Only the stupid stay behind

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    After reading this article in the New york times I felt really sorry for the current condition of young women in Beirut, but I felt even more sorry about my current condition AWAY from Beirut!

    What the heck is going on with the Arab world? And why-oh-why didn't this happen when I was back home? I didn't see such stuff HERE in the goddamn land of the free!! One person said, "Only the stupid stay behind" I would counter that with, "Only the stupid remain away" when so much is going on. Guys in exile, read it, and weep

     

    Nightlife in beirut

    Where the Boys Are, at Least for Now, the Girls Pounce

    Kate Brooks/Polaris,
    for The New York Times

    At a Halloween party at the C-Lounge in Beirut, women tried to attract scarce visiting men with a "Who's the Sexiest?" contest.

    Beirut Journal  By KATHERINE ZOEPF Published: November 2, 2006

    BEIRUT, Lebanon, Nov. 1 - This is a city of nightclubs, but the nightlife is something else these days, and not just because of the feverish edge sharpened by the war last summer.

    By 8 p.m., women in their 20s and early 30s are prowling in packs of five and six, casting meaningful glances at any and all passing men. In the bars the women dance for hours - often on top of the bar - and legs, midriffs, bare shoulders and barely covered bosoms are offered for public admiration.

    Samir Khalaf, a professor of sociology at the American University of Beirut, said the scene astonished his American colleagues. "They are just shocked," he said. " ‘This is Lebanon, the Middle East?' they say. They can't stop talking about all the belly buttons, about all these highly eroticized bodies. You see it everywhere here, this combination of consumerism and postmodernism and female competition."

    For a few weeks twice a year, after Ramadan and before Christmas, thousands of Lebanon's young men return from jobs abroad - and run smack into one of the world's most aggressive cultures of female display. Young women of means have spent weeks primping and planning how to sift through as many men as possible in the short time available. The austere month of Ramadan ended a week ago.

    The country's high rate of unemployment pushes the young men to seek work elsewhere, sometimes in Western countries like France and Canada, but mainly in the United Arab Emirates, Saudi Arabia and the other oil states on the Persian Gulf. The women, inhibited by family pressures, are generally left behind.

    "The demographic reality is truly alarming," Professor Khalaf said. "There are no jobs for university graduates, and with the boys leaving, the sex ratios are simply out of control. It is now almost five to one: five young girls for every young man. When men my sons' age come back to Lebanon, they can't keep the girls from leaping at them."

    For the men, who return with deep pockets and high spirits, the holiday welcome is gratifying.

    "In Doha it is completely impossible, because you can't talk to women in the gulf," said Wisam Hamdan, 35, back from Qatar, where he manages hairdressing salons. "But Lebanese girls are very friendly. I am hoping to meet lots of girls, and then I will pick one."

    The other night Roula Hallak, 27, was wandering the bars of Gemmayzeh, an eastern Beirut neighborhood, with a troupe of six meticulously dressed and made-up girlfriends.

    "I'm not looking, but she is, and so is she," Ms. Hallak said, poking two of them, who giggled and declined to give their names. "It's so hard to meet the perfect guy this way, but there are so many out in Beirut at this time of year. You go out and you look and you're always hoping."

    According to Professor Khalaf, Lebanese Christians have been migrating for economic reasons since Ottoman times. But as the nation's economic crisis has deepened, the exodus has come to include young men from all religious groups and across the socio-economic spectrum, as well as a tiny but growing number of young women.

    Over the last two decades, the Persian Gulf has become the economic pole, and its pull has only grown stronger since the monthlong war this summer between Israel and the Hezbollah militia in Lebanon. With the political situation here still so uncertain, investment and work opportunities are growing even scarcer, and the gender imbalance worsens.

    For young women here, dressing fashionably is a competitive game; stare-down contests between young women in restaurants and malls are common, particularly, say the girls, when one of the women is accompanied by an attractive Lebanese man.

    Kareen Yazbek, a Beirut psychologist, says that the lack of available men is a constant theme in her discussions with young women recovering from depression and drug addiction.

    "Throughout my practice, the main issue that comes up with many young women is that they can't find anyone to be with or to marry," Ms. Yazbek said. "Among college-age girls it's not such a problem, but after graduation there's a big change as the men start seeking work outside of Lebanon."

    "The social pressures on young women are just huge," Ms. Yazbek continued. "The focus is more and more on being beautiful, on pleasing other people. The competition is intense, conformity is a big thing, and everyone, rich and poor, gets plastic surgery. You can go to parts of Beirut where almost every young woman has the same little nose."

    And the big prize, all seem to agree, is the attention of one of the visiting native sons.

    "The guys that remain in Lebanon are the stupid ones!" exclaimed Nayiri Kalayjian, 19, who was hitting the bars on Monot Street, in central Beirut, with three girlfriends.

    "We're too good for them," she said. "The ones who remain in Lebanon are the ones with closed mentalities, the ones who just want a virgin girl. You start to feel that the men who stay in Lebanon are the ones with no ambition in their work, and so you wonder, why are they still here?"

    Full article: http://www.nytimes.com/2006/11/02/world/middleeast/02beirut.html?_r=1&fta=y&oref=slogin

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    Yea, I came across this article last year, it really is a sad state that girls have no life except to get plastic surgery and walk around half naked to get a GUY... its pathetic, it really is.

    But way to contradict yourself there, Q!
    ("I felt really sorry for the current condition of young women in Beirut, but I felt even more sorry about my current condition AWAY from Beirut!" )

    So you feel sorry for the girls yet you still want to take advantage of them???????
    No, I wanted to give them a chance you know ... I'm an equal opportunity employer :)

    Besides, feeling sorry doesn't mean you don't take a little bit of advantage :)
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    • طفيلي(  ahmad)
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    • On: 10/30/2007 6:33:47 AM
    This article shows un-true picture about women in lebonaon.Anyway,if it is allowed in their culture man can have four wives, this crisis will not be exist.
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    • Noura
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    • On: 10/30/2007 6:40:57 AM
    That is just sad..I wish I didn't stumble upon this article..
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    • أنونيموس
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    • On: 10/30/2007 7:00:25 AM
    Well all the signs are there...bank loans for beautification, all the cross marriages between the Southern girls and men in the UN troops...I think most of the Middle East is heading in that direction.
    And Q, you have no reason to feel sorry for situation, soon when you're a US citizen you'll have your own groupie in Amman :)
    People are free to do what they want with their lives :)
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    • Ayub
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    • On: 10/30/2007 7:15:55 PM
    It is interesting that you display a shameless chauvanism and are then respected for it... if you are the model of the men that are in such high demand in beirut, then well, I guess people should feel sorry for the women out there.  To me, it is just a simple lack of moral obligation in society as a whole.  Across religious and social lines.
    Ayoub,
    First thanks for your visit to my humble blog. I think it's a little bit premature for you to decide that I'm promoting my shameless chauvinism. But, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and allow you to read more on why I'm really not what you thought I am.

    Again, thanks for your visit, hopefully you'll find other things to your liking in the future!
    Now I would pick the girl in the black top on the bar...if I was a guy that is..

    I would so not fit in Beirut. If I see competition going for a certain guy, I simply walk away.
    Good choice Priv Anon, but I would personally not pick anyone from a bar. Who knows if she's wired or not! :)
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